So is this only your second relationship??
Yes.
My first relationship was when I was in early twenties and lasted around 1.5 years. Then when I broke that off I was still living with ex when started dating new partner, and then we moved straight in together only 6 months after I ended my first relationship.
I know now that it was a mistake and we moved things along too quickly, but these are the kinds of things you learn from your previous mistakes. I had not learned, and when things weren't going right, with lots of fighting I got depresssed and went on anti-depressants, which only made the situation worse for myself.
At the time we should have been setting boundaries and figuring out whether or not it was going to work, I was on pills that made me not care about much of anything and a year later when I came off, all the problems were still there.
I have not been able to pull myself together to end it since then.
I should really hate my partner, because being 17 years older and having had many relationships to learn from should have seen things weren't right.
I no longer feel like myself any more. I always used to be in control of my life and was able to make hard choices and big changes in my life, but I have been unable to get back to my old self.