Ah. So, the problem is not so complex after all. Your ram + processor is not capable of cl8 1600mhz at any processor speed. So you get to blame either the ram or the processor.
Checking the sticks one at a time is a means of determining which. If one or two sticks refuse to run at 1600mhz but the other does so happily, rma the ram as being incapable of running at rated speeds. If they are all fine individually, then it looks like your processor has a crap imc. It will be difficult/impossible to rma it because of this, so you may have to live with the ram running slower.
It is more likely that the ram can't cope.
Well i tried each stick on it own, with optimized defaults in bios, the only settings i changed was the settings relating to the memory to set them at there rated settings, all cpu clocks and volts where stock, and each one of the sticks failed within seconds of running the flash video, but with all 3 sticks in the video ran for about 4 minutes before crashing. So in that case none of the sticks are able to run at 1600mhz.
This still doesnt explain why the system passed Prime, LinX, & OCCT fine, yet a flash video would case a system lockup. I mean how does a flash video relate to memory speed??
I installed windows vista on my F1 spinpoint drive, and got the same results, so we can rule out the SSD drive or OS thats causing this problem