Better to have loved and lost than to never have loved?

Guest2 · 19 Feb 2010 at 11:31

I'm 25 now and still dont think I have ever been properly in love. A few of my mates have been in relationships for a few years then split up for whatever reason and it destroys them. Some have girlfriends and seem to dissapear off the scene for months, sometimes years

Both these things I really dont want to happen to me.

So, is it worth it?

Paramount · 19 Feb 2010 at 11:32

Yes, just to satisfy the curiosity.

Cookie-Monster · 19 Feb 2010 at 11:33

trent · 19 Feb 2010 at 11:34

K1LLSW1TCH · 19 Feb 2010 at 11:35

Yes while it's going good. No when the **** hits the fan and you realise you've just wasted X amount of weeks/months/years.

[TFU] Thegoon84 · 19 Feb 2010 at 11:36

Yup, its actually better for a bird to "destroy" you... because trust me you learn from your mistakes and your next relationship is usually very good and if you brake up it doesn't bother you as much....

Be prepared tho once you brake up with your first really misses, its does destroy you! Just so true what they say " What hurts you only makes you stronger".

I was devastated when i split up with my first GF after like 4 years from ages 16 i was a mess... now i've never been so happy, married at 25 (young but hey so what), have a beautiful house, and a baby on the way!

So yes its worth every single last bit of misery!

platypus · 19 Feb 2010 at 11:36

Depends. You can have great sex without love.

Nitefly · 19 Feb 2010 at 11:36

Of course yes - love is awesome.

Oh and I'm predicting the boohoo emo comments will come flying in soon

Klo · 19 Feb 2010 at 11:36

You can't force yourself to fall in love, it just happens. It hasn't happened to me yet (I'm 19), but I'm hopeful it will one day.

Paramount · 19 Feb 2010 at 11:39

Thegoon84 said:
Yup, its actually better for a bird to "destroy" you... because trust me you learn from your mistakes and your next relationship is usually very good and if you brake up it doesn't bother you as much....

Be prepared tho once you brake up with your first really misses, its does destroy you! Just so true what they say " What hurts you only makes you stronger".

I was devastated when i split up with my first GF after like 4 years from ages 16 i was a mess... now i've never been so happy, married at 25 (young but hey so what), have a beautiful house, and a baby on the way!

So yes its worth every single last bit of misery!

spot on.

Dinomania · 19 Feb 2010 at 11:40

Yes!

It's a shame they disappear though - that certainly doesn't have to happen.

sigma · 19 Feb 2010 at 11:41

It's overrated

Skully · 19 Feb 2010 at 11:41

Dinomania · 19 Feb 2010 at 11:42

platypus said:
Depends. You can have great sex without love.

Haha, yes it's often great sex when unattached!

But the tender stuff that's all wrapped up in love is not to be missed...

platypus · 19 Feb 2010 at 11:42

sara said:
But the tender stuff that's all wrapped up in love is not to be missed...

Which can be and often are not worth the hassle.

Casdawer · 19 Feb 2010 at 11:47

Dear OcUK Reader,

Yes, it is.

Auntie OcUK

Cosimo · 19 Feb 2010 at 11:48

Yes of course it is. Just wait and see what happens when you meet the chosen one.

V4NT0M · 19 Feb 2010 at 11:49

Better to regret something that you did rather than something you didn't do.

Dinomania · 19 Feb 2010 at 11:49

platypus said:
Which can be and often are not worth the hassle.

I sense someone has had a bit of recent bad experience...

Jock Dodds · 19 Feb 2010 at 11:49

Yes it is. Unless a baby happens, then it most definitely isn't.