That's pathetic, I don't have fair weather friends. I guess those of us who consider themselves true friends don't keep em around so they make do with each other and have these pathetic friendships together.
the friend who has now split up with his gf
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That's pathetic, I don't have fair weather friends. I guess those of us who consider themselves true friends don't keep em around so they make do with each other and have these pathetic friendships together.
Man of Honour
Friendship should be unconditional in my opinion. Just be honest with him though.
how is putting ones missus constantly ahead of friends ever returning you a favour?
Soldato
Damn him for concentrating on his relationship! Imagine him putting a woman before you. Despicable. I strongly suggest never talking to him again and eating a tub of ice cream to make yourself feel better. Then get your hair done and buy some shoes online.
i think you're missing the point
It's not exactly a qualification, is it?
Friends are friends, not just friends when they want to be.
Associate
Had a similar issue with a mate. Each time he got a new girlfriend he'd get in touch every few months or so if he needed something. Of course when things went pear shaped he'd be back, six months or a year later. Put up with it the first three times and hes recently tried to get back in touch after his latest relationship hit the skids. No gf and were rehearsing, going out, having fun.
I couldnt be bothered with him this time, girlfriend or not if a mate needs something Im there but he only wants mates when it suits him and thats not how any friendship should work.
I couldnt be bothered with him this time, girlfriend or not if a mate needs something Im there but he only wants mates when it suits him and thats not how any friendship should work.
exactly. seems a lot of posters can't seem to grasp this
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Caporegime
If you have to ask a computer forum then you probably don't consider him one of your friends. Not in any meaningful way, anyway.
Soldato
I don't think so - I was being facetious. Well, perhaps not entirely, as I was seriously trying to imply that you're coming across like a big emo
Caporegime
Tell him, not us. If you can't be there for him then do the decent thing and let him know.
Maybe their just so overjoyed that people actually want to talk to them they bite their fingers off at the chance of having a mate!
But seriously, why would you consider someone who hasn't been in contact at all for a few years a friend?
Obviously other things are more important to them than you are.
agreed.
Caporegime
A lot of my friends do that, I say about 50/50. They just disappear when they are in a relationship, resurfaces during Christmas pub crawl and may be a stag do. One was so bad, when he was single he was out a lot. When he was with his gf/no wife, we used to call him to come out, he says he would. but he just not bother to turn up and not bother to call. We gave up on him in the end, lately his marriage is a bit iffy and he's come out more, then the relationship got better and he disappeared again.
Another friend, pretty much the casanova of us lot, go through about 4 girlfriends a year on average, and only really see him when he is between girls, then disappears when he has one.
Another friend, pretty much the casanova of us lot, go through about 4 girlfriends a year on average, and only really see him when he is between girls, then disappears when he has one.
Caporegime
Then you aren't much of a friend tbh
I don't need friends who are clingy and need attention all the time.
If he was your mate before he was with the gf then why wouldn't he still be your mate after?
I met up with an old army mate recently who I hadn't seen for several years, nothing had changed much still went for beers and caught up etc... I happen to live in a different part of the UK now, I don't feel the need to phone up old male friends just for a chat in the same way women feel obliged to do so I literally hadn't spoken to the guy for several years.
If someone was your mate a few years ago then even if you've been out of contact for a bit I don't see why you still can't be mates now.
I met up with an old army mate recently who I hadn't seen for several years, nothing had changed much still went for beers and caught up etc... I happen to live in a different part of the UK now, I don't feel the need to phone up old male friends just for a chat in the same way women feel obliged to do so I literally hadn't spoken to the guy for several years.
If someone was your mate a few years ago then even if you've been out of contact for a bit I don't see why you still can't be mates now.
Caporegime
dowie you make a good point, are people saying that if a friend moved away the would not be welcome back as a friend when they visit?