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To be honest, I use to get it a lot at my work place and I use to get worked up about the back talk and get little sleep. In the end it is down to you how it affects you. Bit of sticks and stones rhyme.
In my work place I decided not to say anything and just ignore everything that is said, change the subject of the abuse. In the end they will either let it go or end up getting violent in which case you win over them. The whole human race is a bunch of moaners in some way or another, we just have to live with it.
If you have the opportunity to move job's then go for it.
 
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Ignore it to the best of your ability.

If it doesn't directly affect nor concern you then why does it bother you? You'll never get away from these types in this nation.

Edit - Seems anxiety is the issue, do you do much stress-relief activities? Other than fapping.
 
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You are having a 'typical' anxiety reaction OP...you need to try and rationalise it in your mind to ease your fears.

Firstly work out what you are worried about them saying, is it anything specific or gossip?

If it's specific is it something that is relevant to you or true...are you good/bad at your job for example. Do you pick up the slack of others or vice versa.

If what you worry about is what they say generally then try and think about why you worry about it.
Does it affect your ability to do your job?
Are you bullied because of it, for example do you see people whispering or looking/sniggering around you?
If not then what exactly is you are worried about with them talking?

These aren't questions with a one word answer for the forum, really think deeply about them, question yourself on what you are truly worried about, just think deeply about it and try and rationalise your worries...at the end of the day if you aren't 'in' the group and people talk behind your back does it really matter?
 
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Either be part of the click and don't be part of it. Life is MUCH easier if you try and get along with them. With that being said, sometimes its not possible. In my old job I wasn't part of it and hated some of them so much that to this day if I ever bumped into one or two of my old work colleagues, a fight would probably ensue. These days my life is stress free. I have a team that we all get along and a good boss that has never once tried to undermine any of us. He gets respect and we all give it our utmost effort.

Also working for someone else, it ALWAYS changes.. Your boss may leave or someone else influential may go, and everything will turn around. You kinda just have to ride it out, or move on. My last place, I moved on, got a 20k payrise (over the course) much less stress and much more respect. BUT for a yr it nearly all went **** up, when a female boss came into play. FORTUNATELY they fired her, but she was making everyone's life hell for a while. Ride it out or move on.
 
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Is this the first time you have spoken about it other than someone at work?

You're repressing a lot of feelings and it is causing anxiety it seems.

It will cause an implosion if you don't let it out or find some form of stress relief. Day by day you'll feel like you can't go into work. Maybe even try speaking to a professional about how you feel.
 
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Yo dude, the job i have now is the worst I have seen of bitching and 2 faced people, just zone out of it and think its just work and dont get involved with the bitching. I would say i hardly bother socialising with people in my current job cos of it, dont feel I fit in with the group so i know what u mean and its prob worse for me as iv only been there 2 months! Job would be far better if it wasnt for that but i guess theres always worse places, as someone else said just suck it up or gtfo dont bother causing a scene over it. It will just make it worse!
 
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