What's age got to do with it? It's just a) tradition b) respectful... It's of course not a requisite...
At 27 she is a consenting adult and can do what she wants.
What would you do if her father said no? Not marry her because of some outdated crap?
What's age got to do with it? It's just a) tradition b) respectful... It's of course not a requisite...
Ask before... definitely
Stelly
I asked the father, it shows respect.
He was thrilled and wished me all the luck in the world.
Really depends on her father and how old fashioned he is.
What would you do if her father said no? Not marry her because of some outdated crap?
At 27 she is a consenting adult and can do what she wants.
What would you do if her father said no? Not marry her because of some outdated crap?
Bloody sourpuss!
It's just polite and respectful. The correct traditional etiquette that's all.
As said, if you don't believe in that 'crap' do you actually beleive in the sanctity of marriage?
I didn't realise the 'asking the father thing' was still popular. I thought it was a thing of the past
I didn't ask her father because she was 27 not 13.
What's age got to do with it? It's just a) tradition b) respectful... It's of course not a requisite...
Heh, i was with my mrs for 7 years. We bought a house and lived together for 3 years. Then things went sour last year and we split, sold the house and bought our own 10 miles apart. But 3 months later before the house sales went through we got back together. We agreed to live apart as it seemed best...turns out it was the best thing we did. Things are better than ever and so i proposed. By the time we get married we will have been together 9 years.
Who knew?!
Father's do expect this so ask him. He won't kill you.
It's sad that something so nice - upon entering the family, making the father of the woman you love feel good, and important and involved in her life choices - can just be reduced to 'outdated crap'. In most cases, the guy you're asking brought this girl up and made her into the person she is, so all it is is respect. But sadly to an awful lot of people, respect is just 'outdated crap' and that's why we are in such a sorry state as a society!
Good on all you lads who would ask. It's not necessary, but it's a nice thing to do.
Did you ask the Father twice?
kd