Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

Neil79 · 21 Dec 2011 at 11:03

Anyone live in Faversham, I need some date ideas!

Jambo · 23 Dec 2011 at 16:30

KnightStalker said:
Right heres a little question, I have a son, who doesnt live with me and i see once a week, would you still select you have children in the profile screen?
Or select no, but in the description bit add something about it?

Now for the last couple of months ive had it as Yes - But last night i changed it to No and today ive had 3 people message me, coincidence maybe but still odd.

I would definitely select yes.

Neil79 said:
I have a date on friday evening!, 3 days before christmas lol

What you doing?

D1ngd0ng · 23 Dec 2011 at 17:08

KnightStalker said:
Right heres a little question, I have a son, who doesnt live with me and i see once a week, would you still select you have children in the profile screen?
Or select no, but in the description bit add something about it?

Now for the last couple of months ive had it as Yes - But last night i changed it to No and today ive had 3 people message me, coincidence maybe but still odd.

I selected no. Why exclude yourself from part of the pool? If they like you enough when the time comes then they will be accepting (I'm in the same boat, children every other weekend) it is a dangerous move as I have found out to my cost with the last woman I was dating. But that has only happened once so far.

silversurfer · 23 Dec 2011 at 18:04

You could select either so long as you tell them fairly early on its hardly that ground breaking that someone has a kid nearby. Since they dont live with you its really not need to know info on first dates, etc

apeZ · 28 Dec 2011 at 23:35

With POF, do you have to pay to see whether they have read or deleted your message now? Kinda lame

Edit: Also, do women actively look through guys profiles and message them or just wait to be contacted?

D1ngd0ng · 29 Dec 2011 at 00:46

apeZ said:
With POF, do you have to pay to see whether they have read or deleted your message now? Kinda lame

Edit: Also, do women actively look through guys profiles and message them or just wait to be contacted?

Both, but most get 100+ messages a day (95% of which is rubbish) so good luck.

manic111 · 29 Dec 2011 at 00:56

Behemoth said:
I turned up she turned up turned out she couldn't strinmg a proper conversation together

Irony?

Sinny · 29 Dec 2011 at 00:58

Well I was readyto give up and try the route that never works for me, I was ready to delete my account (I already deleted my PoF one) and got a message from some really nice girl.

I thought it was a joke at first as she seemed really attractive, exchanged messages for a few days, then she asked me for my number, I was gobsmacked, but still gave her it.

Had a few dates now and she's coming over tomorrow to watch some films and is bringing my a christmas present as I've got her one.

I've said this many times about a girl but genuinely think this one is a keeper after some lengthy conversations

apeZ · 29 Dec 2011 at 02:22

D1ngd0ng said:
Both, but most get 100+ messages a day (95% of which is rubbish) so good luck.

Thanks. Any answer to my first question?

MisChief · 29 Dec 2011 at 02:27

apeZ said:
Thanks. Any answer to my first question?

Yep you have to pay now to see if people have read your messages

ChroniC · 29 Dec 2011 at 02:34

I'm onto a 4th date with a girl. I'm going to push seriousness cause I have had some messages from other girls who are boomting, and I don't mind taking it slow but I need to know whether its worth moving on..

Has anyone had this problem, you have a possible, but then have many other possibles....

Zefan · 29 Dec 2011 at 02:39

ChroniC said:
Has anyone had this problem, you have a possible, but then have many other possibles....

I have no advice there, but I just have to say that is such a first world problem

"Oh no! I have too many girls interested in me

"

apeZ · 29 Dec 2011 at 02:41

MisChief said:
Yep you have to pay now to see if people have read your messages

Aw, that sucks. I guess I'll just wait a few days and see if I get a reply, if not I'll just move on.

Also, I've been using the 'Quick Message' thing on people's profiles to message girls, but the 'Subject' line is always 'Hi' or something. Can I personalise it?

theNude · 29 Dec 2011 at 02:44

ChroniC said:
I'm onto a 4th date with a girl. I'm going to push seriousness cause I have had some messages from other girls who are boomting, and I don't mind taking it slow but I need to know whether its worth moving on..

Has anyone had this problem, you have a possible, but then have many other possibles....

Mate, try 2.5 months and still no idea where its going? its frustrating. If you like each other then just say and act on it.

MisChief · 29 Dec 2011 at 02:47

apeZ said:
Aw, that sucks. I guess I'll just wait a few days and see if I get a reply, if not I'll just move on.

Also, I've been using the 'Quick Message' thing on people's profiles to message girls, but the 'Subject' line is always 'Hi' or something. Can I personalise it?

Tbh, I think it's better to not know anyway. Just send loads of messages and if they reply then great, if they don't then you'll soon forget about them and move on to the next person anyway.

You should be able to set your default subject title under your mail settings.

MisChief · 29 Dec 2011 at 02:53

theDude said:
Mate, try 2.5 months and still no idea where its going? its frustrating. If you like each other then just say and act on it.

Girls are usually too shy to make the first move and say they like you etc. I would suggest you guys say something first

apeZ · 29 Dec 2011 at 02:55

MisChief said:
Tbh, I think it's better to not know anyway. Just send loads of messages and if they reply then great, if they don't then you'll soon forget about them and move on to the next person anyway.

You should be able to set your default subject title under your mail settings.

Thanks again, will give that a try

ChroniC · 29 Dec 2011 at 02:57

theDude said:
Mate, try 2.5 months and still no idea where its going? its frustrating. If you like each other then just say and act on it.

Your right, and I know this. I have had hints that it will be new years eve

If it's not then I will say something.

Zefan said:
I have no advice there, but I just have to say that is such a first world problem

"Oh no! I have too many girls interested in me "

I know... It silly but the closer I get to 30, the more gracefully I grow old and they get desperate.

Shayper · 29 Dec 2011 at 03:04

Well, I'm happy at the moment

The girl I met on POF over the summer and that I dated for a while back then is, after a couple of months of constant texting, but not seeing each other (I'm at uni) is now my girlfriend

. Well, has been for about a week and a half

She's coming out with me on new years, and is staying over for the whole weekend

.

Guess these sites really do work

MisChief · 29 Dec 2011 at 03:08

Shayper said:

Happy for you, but too many smiley faces!!! :mad: