I've been a long time reader of this post, but having moved to Oz last year, internet dating is something I've been considering just to expand my social circle. FWIW I would say the standard of girls generally in Australia is higher than what I'm used to in London, but after finding my 'perfect girl' here that sadly didn't work out, I've not met anyone of interest since. As a result, I've recently caved and joined the online dating game.
Both POF and OKCupid are fairly big here, along with a third called Oasis, which is profile based but doesn't let you send messages, just a cheesy one liner introduction, which if accepted, adds the user to an IM style client. Strangely, judging by what I've read in the past of the respective sites, It's quite eerie to see how much these sites mirror (i.e. by the types of people that frequent them) those back in the UK;
- POF, I've only recently joined, but have been sent lots of messages in under a week (probably in the order of 30 or so), but the majority are from, to coin an OcUK phrase, swamp donkeys. Not only that, but the vast majority are limited to 'how are you?' or some horrific text speak *******isation of it. As a result, I've only replied to two of them, but haven't met either yet.
- OKC, I've been on here a fair bit longer, and find the standard of girls to be the best of all the sites. All those that messaged me have been literate and have met a couple from there for a few dates but it's not developed from there. I've sent a few messages out with mixed success; definitely notice certain topics do better than others.. surprisingly to my mind, asking people (who explicitly mention going on a trip) about their travel plans rarely seems to illicit a response..?
- Oasis, I'm not such a fan of this site, the standard of girls seems to sit between POF and OKC, but the IM style makes it much harder. For a start, you have to be online at the same time, and then hope that the person has time to talk to you (plus given most sign in from their phone, replies can be pretty slow!). It also means you have to be feeling sufficiently 'energetic' to engage with someone. However, it has been good when someone can spend a reasonable time chatting to you.
It's possibly me, but I think my general complaint with internet dating is that I sense many girls seem to be 'holding out' for their perfect guy. You never really know where you stand with any of them, as there could be 5 other guys in the background that she's also talking to. In fact, I've had the most success with a girl that quit the site (due to getting weird messages) but wanted to stay in contact with me. In some respects, I find that I'm becoming a lot more picky about both looks and personality, and I'm not sure I like it. Having said that, I enjoy talking to new people and haven't had any terrible dates yet. I'm more curious if people often stay in touch with those they've met, even if there isn't a 'spark'? I'm quite open to expanding my social circle, but it seems weird to revert back to friends when you've solely been trying to seduce someone!
tl; dr - Dating sites attract the same people, even in different countries. It's hard to work out how you stand with someone when people are proactively trying to message lots of people simultaneously. Internet dating has made me fussier.