Just because people use the term gay when describing something negative it doesn’t mean they are describing *you* in a negative way. Regardless, as long as you are comfortable with your own sexuality who the hell cares what others think anyway?
Chances are no-one will care, they'll be trying to nail the member called Ilubpwnies21/f/sweden even though its really a 46 year old fat guy from mexico.
Calling things gay because you don't like them is totally ga- oh, hang on.
I'm not gay so take this with as many grains of salt as you like, but my advice would be to not tell anyone. Not because it's a shameful thing, but because sexual preference is utterly irrelevant in online gaming. The sort of people who think it isn't fall into two camps: homophobic idiots and homosexual idiots. You don't want to associate with the former group or be associated with the latter, and you can avoid the attention of both groups almost entirely by keeping it to yourself. If you make friends online then by all means tell them if you want to; if they give you grief over it then they're not really friends.
E: sorry, I'm talking about individual interactions. If you want to find a community of gaymers that's entirely different, and there's a few of them knocking about if you look.
Quality post and pretty much spot on.
People will always use what's different about you compared to them to insult you with. The one thing gaming does is allow you is anonymity, which means you can be anything you want to be as far as the gaming world is concerned.
I will say that I belong to a demographic that no one sticks up for and you don't hear a single one of complain about it.
I'm a white, heterosexual, atheist, middle aged man.
You'll hear plenty if stories of people who claim they've been discriminated against because they're a woman, homosexual, disabled, Afro/Caribbean, Asian, Hindu, Christian, old, young, etc.
No one sticking up for me but me.
The reason? I'm gay, and pretty much everything that's bad/rubbish gets described as "gay". There was actually a bit of this on consoles too (possibly worse, but it's been a while since I game socially on console)
So, am I likely better moving to a "gay" community for my online/social gaming?
Language evolves. The word gay now means "rubbish" within certain parts of society. You may be unhappy with that but remember the word used to just mean "happy and carefree" but its meaning changed.
Brendan O'Neill of Spiked writes an interesting piece on it HERE
Didn't the word gay originally mean "happy"?
If you don't like people using the that connotation of the word, politely to ask them to stop using it. If they refuse or continue they are obviously not worth your time or energy.
Josh
Btw - good work with they the "gayming" thing. Much lolz
I'm also of that demographic. I take issue with the line of thought that all white men "have it easy so they don't have a right to complain about anything" but I also can't remember any time that people have used a word that describes our demographic as an insult. You (and I) do not suffer that kind of discrimination so it's rather spurious to bring it up.
Btw - good work with they the "gayming" thing. Much lolz
Stolen by homosexuals then stolen from them by the youth.
Brendan O'Neill of Spiked writes an interesting piece on it HERE
But the OP wants it back!
To the OP, I'm pretty sure when you're gaming people don't give a damn about your sexual tendencies.