The difference between getting 30mpg and 50mpg at 12k miles a year is roughly £800 a year. Obviously the more miles you do the more you save.
Though once you start adding power/torque, handling upgrades and bodykits/wheel, etc, that £800 a year soon disappears. Especially as standard parts like the clutch and dmf fail and need upgrading to handle the power.
Yes. That difference is big enough to certainly be considering the diesel.
Of course, your second point assumes that having the turbocharged petrol in the MPS wont also be mapped (I know I would be mapping it for sure), in which case, the DMF failure would still be a consideration.
Someone who is willing to remap their TDI is most likely to be willing to remap their turbocharged petrol too. In fact, someone willing to change everything you mentioned is just as likely to do that with their petrol equivalent too.