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It's called culture, darling.
But the OP lives in the Midlands.
Oh wait... you mean cities outside the UK. Yeah, now it makes sense.
*Looks at location* Oh, nevermind
Yeah, it's a tough gig down here.
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It's called culture, darling.
*Looks at location* Oh, nevermind
Well you see, I haven't stepped in
I am just concerned and wanted to see what people thought about the situation.
What's wrong with him looking out for his parent's wellbeing? They're not happy with the arrangement but feel uncomfortable saying so and causing a fuss. Therefore he is being there to support them.
Exactly.
I'm not just concerned about my parents, I am concerned about my brother too though.
Also, "city breaks" in Europe,could very well mean he has a habit of cavorting with ladies of the night. Ask him, see if he goes red or gets all defensive!
Why the hell would you go to a CITY for a holiday?
He needs a reality check and my advice is it needs to be a hard one. You have to force him out, when he leaves one weekend, kick all his **** out, pack it up. Dump it off at a rented storage unit that's paid for 3 months and tell him to sort his **** out and that he's not welcome back.
He will likely either end up homeless, in a shared house or heaven forbid, sorting his life out...
It's the only solution.
You do not do this to your family.
You do not do this to your family.
You do if you love them. It's in their benefit.
The man child is 40 years old. You think they've not already tried talking/shouting/crying about this to him?
Something needs to give. And the only option in my eyes is a hard lesson.
Maybe the brother and family can help him setup by paying deposit and a few months rent?
You do if you love them. It's in their benefit.
Potentially making them homeless, even for a short time, is for their benefit?
I love my family, I wouldn't do this to them. My values wouldn't allow me to do it, despite how much they were annoying me.
The issue is between your brother and your parents, it sounds to me as you're worried he's eating into their money and therefore your inheritance.
Yes living with parents at 40 is not great but that's their business, as mentioned your parents are to blame by allowing this.
FYI I'm 43 (I bought in 1999) and my best mate still lives at home with his mother, he did however buy his brothers half of the house when his father passed and now owns it outright and let's his mother live with him (for free she cooks his meals and does his laundry), is this something that your brother could do, negates the need for a deposit as his half the house could be used as equity?