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Are you going on dates and then comparing them to your ex? Early on I always put my ex on a pedestal and it really did not help with moving on. Instead of thinking about how much I missed her or how nice she was (she's stunning tbf, so it was always difficult) I tried not to think about it and started thinking more of myself and what I have to offer to women and what my ex was missing out on. I soon got over it because I was concentrating on my life rather than thinking of her all the time.
It is difficult, but there isn't much you can do apart from wait, but in the meantime try and stay positive and think of it as an opportunity to try new things in life and turn yourself into a better person, be it new hobbies, getting fit, doing things you've not tried etc.
I can't seem to not compare them, it's not even looks but more her personality and how she was, I never really fancied her but we had an intense sex life. So yep it's probably way to early to go dating again as it's been a properly messed up situation as it went on for 3 1/2 years. I finished it and still feel like this!
I've committed to the gym and some other stuff, really trying to change. Most importantly spending more time with my son. I'll try focus on myself more and improving instead of wondering about her and regrets of it not working out.
6 months? The turning around or crossing the street is like something I would have done!
Maybe you are trying too hard to find someone else. I think the best thing would be to have a break from dating and give yourself time to get over this woman. You obviously have no problem finding someone else. I don't think I've been on 30 dates in my whole life!!
6 weeks, we was still seeing each other regularly since Jan. I just couldn't bare speaking as I'd end up asking how she was and how her new relationship was. I've been trying way to hard and it's become a chore! I think you're right about getting over it first so I've deleted all my online stuff. Honestly I think it might be more than 30 but it's become painful as I've only fancied/liked maybe 3. My type is probably quite niche.
I think because I get such intense worry and anxiety I'm not going to be the one to recover from this or move on (special *********) I read/saw 413x go through this on here and come out okay so it gives me hope.
I do see now since my ex got back in contact 3 years ago then we stayed super close while sleeping together and living in each others pockets I became very depressed. That now feels different and instead an actual emotion of sadness which is good I guess.
Cheers
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