And with enough entangled particles, it should be entirely possible that enough 0s and 1s to make a message, differentiating is impossible but i'm sure there's away to figure the message out.
Not really. The two particles are entangled in that yes, if one is measured to be spin-up, then we can deduce that the other is spin-down, however in practice the measurement is probabilistic, so while we can know what the other is, we have no way of "setting" the spin of one photon without influencing it and therefore breaking the entanglement.
Say you had 8 pairs of entangled particles, that you create on earth, and 8 particles stay there, while you send 8 to the moon. On earth, you can then measure those 8 "bits" and generate a random number. Now the people on earth know what both the random 8 bit numbers are on both earth and the moon, and the moon people can also measure it and know, but it doesn't change the fact that the "information" is still random, there's no way to influence the result to actually transmit any meaningful information. Although, you can actually use it for highly secure cryptographic keys.
There is also no way of knowing if the other side have "checked" the particles, so you couldn't even do something like a 2xN grid of particles, and check one column. For each bit that comes out as what you want, check the next bit in the column over. Unless we discover some new physics, it's ultimately fairly useless.