a modern day solution may be asking the new lover to move into the house if you are OK with it and the wife does not want a divorce. only if you have a spare room.
Has she lawyered up yet?
If she says no, then dig in, "ok im not going to agree to it for 5 years, im staying at the property and your boyfriend cant come around ever"
Perhaps the thought of getting a huge was of cash quickly and the ability to move on will work in your favor.
Is the mortgage in joint name or just yours?
Don’t worry that’s standard behaviour from men and women when their partner stops giving them the tingles, she’ll do the same to the new guy in [insert number of years]
Try not to beat yourself up about it, it’s difficult as a man not to feel inferior somehow, but it happens across the board regardless of how good looking, wealthy and personable said person is.
It happens but yes, she could certainly have handled it a lot better, maybe she saw it as an option that would end it for sure.
You just need to accept it, move on and try and keep things friendly going forwards, make life as simple as you can.
Funny how it doesn’t apply to her, seeing as her husband Jay Z had a fling with some random woman whilst married to her. Which she decided to sing about on her last album.In the words of Beyonce “Who run the world? Girls!”
Ok, so we had an estate agent come out after I asked, what are you thoughts, she said she has an appointment to see if she can buy me out, I said ok, and how much were you thinking? "Don't know" came the answer, how much do you want she asked? I said 50%" she laughed stating as the mother etc she is entitled to 70% if the kids stay with her, bit of an assumption there I think.
I am already considering saying I won't move.
I am not feeling inferior in any way at all, I know the grass is NOT greener and told her as much.
I have accepted it and I am moving on and also trying to keep it friendly but she is making this side of things difficult.
From memory a colleague had to move out and continue paying the mortgage (and of course child maintenance). But the house gets sold when the kids are older and he gets 50% of the property value at that point. So I don't think her statement about the mother getting 70% is necessarily true. Obvioiusly talk to a lawyer though.
I'm going through it as well, only winners are the solicitors.Sorry to hear about this mate, hope you get the result you want.
I'm going through it as well, only winners are the solicitors.
This thread really is food for thought for the future. Horrendous is an understatement.
I did not know that if you have kids the carer basically has you by the nads. And that's going to be the woman unless she doesn't want to be.
they will. I probably stayed in a **** marriage many more years than I should have. I'm in a happier place now, seeing a lovely lady and beginning to see some light. The divorce however will result in her taking most of my assets despite having contributed nothing. Only positive is that there were no kidsYeah, hope things work out for you too