News on Wife (reason for being away for a day)
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Caporegime
Terrible news 
I am just so sad, it is like my reason for living is gone but I will not do anything silly my two dogs need me.
I think most of you would have really liked Paola if you had the chance to meet her.
Not only was she a good person and loved doing things for people she was a gamer through and through, before her hands became too damaged unreal tournament was her game, then she moved to counter strike, she loved sniper rifles and we even used to have our own Dayz server.
She embraced living even with the pain and loved B movies, also loved all the marvel movies and Dead pool.
No matter how bad she was always she put others first.
The only reason she didn't have her own account on here was her hands hurt too much to type.
I think most of you would have really liked Paola if you had the chance to meet her.
Not only was she a good person and loved doing things for people she was a gamer through and through, before her hands became too damaged unreal tournament was her game, then she moved to counter strike, she loved sniper rifles and we even used to have our own Dayz server.
She embraced living even with the pain and loved B movies, also loved all the marvel movies and Dead pool.
No matter how bad she was always she put others first.
The only reason she didn't have her own account on here was her hands hurt too much to type.
All I can say is that time heals all wounds. You treated her like your queen and never faltered, she's left behind an amazing person and I'm sure she is smiling down upon you from wherever she is now, grateful for the love and life you gave her. Be strong my friend, you can celebrate being an amazing pair knowing that not many out there can claim to have the dedication and fight both of you displayed.
Soldato
I rarely post in threads like these because they ruin me, but breaking that "rule" to say your in our thoughts xx
Caporegime
I'm certain that Paola wouldn't want you to think you can't go on living your life, and whilst right now isn't the time to be thinking about the directions you wish to take, I also know that you have a lot to give, a lot to share, and a good head on your shoulders.
I'm sure you will do her proud, and her memory will always live on.
She was indeed a lovely person, fascinating to listen to her stories and perspective on the world, I too believe that most would have liked her and she would have made a great member of these forums had she still had the ability to type properly.
I'm sure you will do her proud, and her memory will always live on.
She was indeed a lovely person, fascinating to listen to her stories and perspective on the world, I too believe that most would have liked her and she would have made a great member of these forums had she still had the ability to type properly.
I am so glad you got to meet her.
Caporegime
Calranthe so so sorry to hear of your loss. Paola sounded like a lovely person and it’s such a shame she has gone now .
May her soul rest in peace and I’m sure she is looking down upon you and smiling.
You really are an amazing person to give up everything to look after her. To me that is the true definition of love.
Time will heal but I’m sure you will never forget her and the good times you both had.
Keep up your head up dude and I hope you find peace and happiness again very soon
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. May her soul rest in peace and I’m sure she is looking down upon you and smiling.
You really are an amazing person to give up everything to look after her. To me that is the true definition of love.
Time will heal but I’m sure you will never forget her and the good times you both had.
Keep up your head up dude and I hope you find peace and happiness again very soon
.Here is what happened in details.
As you have all heard the day that I never wanted to come has come, we both fought so hard, she was a fighter right till the end and everyone who got to know Paola was better off from the experience.
On Tuesday 20th of November at 6:30am I went into hospital to disconnect Paola from her dialysis, things were looking up it was working well, we smiled and talked really wanting the treatment to get a move on, both of us wanted her back at home, no one ever wants to be in hospital, no matter how amazing the nurses and Doctors are we heal best at home.
After I disconnected her and we pushed the machine out of the way, we chatted as we waited for the nurses to come and give Paola her dry weight, a dry weight is when something you take first thing in the morning before eating or drinking, it is how you keep a record and watch on fluid build up.
The Doctors and Nurses in the coronary care unit were amazing the best I have ever seen, every night I went home knowing Paola was in good hands.
The main Doctor came around and told us the plan of action an Echo cardiogram and a big meeting of all the specialists, then tweaking of Paola's medicine and maybe home by the weekend.
Her weight was taken and then she sat out in her wheelchair, I tried to brain storm new things to distract her, at 9am I left after making sure the Nurses ordered her a protein drink, before leaving I told her that I loved her, and waved through the door to her room, I called Trevor to come pick me up and stood outside the hospital main entrance, Paola messaged me on whatsapp and mentioned Minecraft for the phone so I bought it for her from the google store and told her to download it.
I was so excited to tell Trevor Paola should be home by the weekend, even started making plans.
From looking at her phone I could see the last thing she did was start playing Minecraft and listening to the new song Hold on to Memories by Disturbed, I got home and fed the dogs, went up on my computer and started typing out all the updates to let people know how Paola was, I then looked at rings online, Paola wanted to swap her ring for one with less edges, I found a lovely band with a Dragon, it was 10:07 when I sent a message to her phone asking for her ring size.
She never replied, I got a call a minute later from the nurse looking after Paola, saying she was in a bad way and I needed to get back to the hospital, I felt right then like my world was ending, everything went cold, I put the dogs in and ran over to Trevors house next door, we were in the car in minutes and he found a parking space while I ran to the ward, I was trying to talk myself out of the pit that had formed in my mind, I was shaking as I pressed the buzzer into the ward, a nurse came to me and told me they were working on Paola, would I like to go in or go wait in the waiting room, I went in with them.
I now understood why the coronary rooms are so big, 12 people were in there, a lot of machines and they were taking turns on Paola's chest, if you have never seen a cardiac arrest and how they respond its not like in the movies or TV series, its so much more violent, they compress the entire chest, they had the same kind of echo ultra sound you have to check on the baby, 2 mins of chest compressions plus she was already ventilated then they would stop check for a pulse, (unlike tv there is no sound from the machines they turn the sound off) do a quick echo scan of her heart and start again.
They managed to bring her back once just before I arrived and she had a second cardiac arrest, her heart was unresponsive, not working at all, they gave adrenaline they really did try everything and they let me tell them when to stop.
They then told me to hold her hand and talk to her as she slipped away which I did.
Paola was in no pain at the end, after that moment of playing Minecraft and listening to her song once she said her chest felt funny by the time they lay her on the bed she was listless and unfocused. But as the Doctors explained her body fought to the end.
The world is a lesser place without her and I feel completely lost.
But no truer words are spoke than Death is what happens when you are making other plans.
I read out every message you all said to her, she was so looking forward to meeting a few at our house and to reorganise the OCuk visit.
Everything seems grey and washed out to me, I tried to distract myself with shows on TV but it just made me want her to be watching with me.
As you have all heard the day that I never wanted to come has come, we both fought so hard, she was a fighter right till the end and everyone who got to know Paola was better off from the experience.
On Tuesday 20th of November at 6:30am I went into hospital to disconnect Paola from her dialysis, things were looking up it was working well, we smiled and talked really wanting the treatment to get a move on, both of us wanted her back at home, no one ever wants to be in hospital, no matter how amazing the nurses and Doctors are we heal best at home.
After I disconnected her and we pushed the machine out of the way, we chatted as we waited for the nurses to come and give Paola her dry weight, a dry weight is when something you take first thing in the morning before eating or drinking, it is how you keep a record and watch on fluid build up.
The Doctors and Nurses in the coronary care unit were amazing the best I have ever seen, every night I went home knowing Paola was in good hands.
The main Doctor came around and told us the plan of action an Echo cardiogram and a big meeting of all the specialists, then tweaking of Paola's medicine and maybe home by the weekend.
Her weight was taken and then she sat out in her wheelchair, I tried to brain storm new things to distract her, at 9am I left after making sure the Nurses ordered her a protein drink, before leaving I told her that I loved her, and waved through the door to her room, I called Trevor to come pick me up and stood outside the hospital main entrance, Paola messaged me on whatsapp and mentioned Minecraft for the phone so I bought it for her from the google store and told her to download it.
I was so excited to tell Trevor Paola should be home by the weekend, even started making plans.
From looking at her phone I could see the last thing she did was start playing Minecraft and listening to the new song Hold on to Memories by Disturbed, I got home and fed the dogs, went up on my computer and started typing out all the updates to let people know how Paola was, I then looked at rings online, Paola wanted to swap her ring for one with less edges, I found a lovely band with a Dragon, it was 10:07 when I sent a message to her phone asking for her ring size.
She never replied, I got a call a minute later from the nurse looking after Paola, saying she was in a bad way and I needed to get back to the hospital, I felt right then like my world was ending, everything went cold, I put the dogs in and ran over to Trevors house next door, we were in the car in minutes and he found a parking space while I ran to the ward, I was trying to talk myself out of the pit that had formed in my mind, I was shaking as I pressed the buzzer into the ward, a nurse came to me and told me they were working on Paola, would I like to go in or go wait in the waiting room, I went in with them.
I now understood why the coronary rooms are so big, 12 people were in there, a lot of machines and they were taking turns on Paola's chest, if you have never seen a cardiac arrest and how they respond its not like in the movies or TV series, its so much more violent, they compress the entire chest, they had the same kind of echo ultra sound you have to check on the baby, 2 mins of chest compressions plus she was already ventilated then they would stop check for a pulse, (unlike tv there is no sound from the machines they turn the sound off) do a quick echo scan of her heart and start again.
They managed to bring her back once just before I arrived and she had a second cardiac arrest, her heart was unresponsive, not working at all, they gave adrenaline they really did try everything and they let me tell them when to stop.
They then told me to hold her hand and talk to her as she slipped away which I did.
Paola was in no pain at the end, after that moment of playing Minecraft and listening to her song once she said her chest felt funny by the time they lay her on the bed she was listless and unfocused. But as the Doctors explained her body fought to the end.
The world is a lesser place without her and I feel completely lost.
But no truer words are spoke than Death is what happens when you are making other plans.
I read out every message you all said to her, she was so looking forward to meeting a few at our house and to reorganise the OCuk visit.
Everything seems grey and washed out to me, I tried to distract myself with shows on TV but it just made me want her to be watching with me.
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I'm so sorry for your loss...
Soldato
Sorry for your loss
Well, that did me in - it's a bit dusty in here.
Soldato
sorry for your loss.