Ah, in that case yes. I'll be cracking out the charm. And hopefully she'll be receptive to it.
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Ah, in that case yes. I'll be cracking out the charm. And hopefully she'll be receptive to it.
How old are you, do you have or plan to have any kids?
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Then of course you have a chance it’s 50/50 she’s either going to want you or not.
If you not good with kids mind you got no chance though!
Mid thirties, and not really. At least, not at the moment.
I say go for itLong distance works if you keep up communication etc and 3 months will fly by. Good luck !
I wound't worry about it, 3 months is no time, especially if you're going to visit her too.
Just put it in perspective, only a couple of generations our grand parents (or great grandparents) were in the middle of WW2... no internet and Skype back then, only letters. My Nana waited for years for my Grandfather, not knowing if he was still alive and only seeing him occasionally on leave.
You've got Skype, WhatsApp, chances to see her during those months... it's nothing, loads of people do long distance these days, it is easier than it has ever been and that's only a short time to have to do it for anyway.
Sounds like you've got a potentially good thing, you should definitely pursue it, see what happens and best of luck with it
I met my girlfriend in December on an app, on the first date she said she was going travelling in March which immediately set off alarm bells. Anyway, we got on really well and just played it by ear. She was away for about 4 months, but because of Whatsapp we messaged at least a little every day and stayed in contact. Given we'd only been dating 4 months before we went away, when she got back we were definitely more in sync and it was as if we'd been seeing each other 8 months rather than 4 months and another 4 of her being away.
So basically, as Marvt74 says above, if it feels right then go for it
I feel like it this was me I'd have called it off as 4 weeks is nothing! I'd definitely struggle to do the long term thing for years, 3 months should be a breeze though!
Thanks for the above words of encouragement. TUrns out as i'd just sent that last message she video called me (first time we've done that) and we had a chat for 20 mins or so and ended up pencilling in a date for when she would book some time off at a weekend and I could fly down and see her for a long weekend which is 3 weeks today, so its still very positive. I think I self-doubt and overthink these kind of situations but fingers crossed it all works out. I guess the proof will be in the pudding when i get there in 3 weeks and see what our chemistry is like!
Yay or nay to...?
If it's dating. For me it's a firm no. I know I don't want kids and don't want to waste anyone's time.
If it's another reason well that's different!
Depends if you want to raise kids that are not your own. I certainly would not even if you paid me.
Haha I've been there, quite a few times now.Then go for it! Just don't "accidently" get her pregnant
No. There are too many variables at play. No matter how attractive the mother is bringing up someone else's kids is rock hard. Take it from someone who is suffering and don't make the same mistake.
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That's awesome, she's clearly just as keen as you are mate! 3 months will fly by, especially if you're seeing her a few weeks in.
Well, I rang one of them last night. We talked for about 20mins and the convo flowed well. I've always got something to talk about, so I'm not overly concerned about exhausting topics of conversation. One thing however, and for this reason alone I'm glad that we spoke. She sounded very shy, which for me is a bit of a turn off. I like a woman with balls. So to speak....I'll be meeting her later today. Date 2, text context only shall commence at 11am tomorrow, and date 3 text contact only shall commence at 7pm the same day. A full spreadsheet of my findings incoming
Yeh we will see how it pans out. Fingers crossed.
Tek81 - there are plenty of people who are shy to begin with but once they feel comfortable around someone they're fine.
She might just be nervous. The chat on the phone might have actually helped ease any first date nerves.
Good luck for later
She might just be nervous. The chat on the phone might have actually helped ease any first date nerves.
Good luck for later
Tek81 - there are plenty of people who are shy to begin with but once they feel comfortable around someone they're fine.
She might just be nervous. The chat on the phone might have actually helped ease any first date nerves.
Good luck for later
Good point. Cheers
I’ve been in a long distance relationship for almost 12 months with 4000 miles between us which can be a real challenge and my best advice is don’t message but use video as your form of communication as messages can lead to a whole world of confusion depending on your moods when reading them.
Apart from that go for it as the time you grab together will be awesome
I second this advice....I've come out of a long terms relationship at the end of last year and being this ages with no baggage is terrific
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How high up on the creepy scale is adding on Facebook, a saleswoman you spoke to in a shop?
1 being this isn't in anyway inappropriate, i'm so glad youstalked found me! And 10 being omg you psychopath i'm calling the police!
1 being this isn't in anyway inappropriate, i'm so glad you
How high up on the creepy scale is adding on Facebook, a saleswoman you spoke to in a shop?
1 being this isn't in anyway inappropriate, i'm so glad youstalkedfound me! And 10 being omg you psychopath i'm calling the police!
How good looking are you?
If you are very attractive you can pull it off, if not you are a creep.
Post your top 3 pics of yourself and I'll tell you, or base it on how many times this month you've gotten laid on tinder.