LOL at suggesting online dating in a mental health thread. Basically absolute torture if you're not in the 90th percentile looks-wise.
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LOL at suggesting online dating in a mental health thread. Basically absolute torture if you're not in the 90th percentile looks-wise.
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Suggestions are always welcome. You mentioned banal... You know what my #1 fear is? Honestly?
Well, my #1 fear (apart from Thatcher being reincarnated) is that I'm just terribly boring. Like, the most boring person in the known universe.
Which is one of the major reasons I'm not online datingI don't want to bore anyone to death. "Girls just wanna have fu-un! Oh girls, they wanna have fu-un (Wanna, Wanna have fun, Just wanna, Wanna have fun)"
Dammit now I've got that song in my head.
Disagree with you there. The fact you have 25000 posts suggests you have something to say. Rephrase boring to steady if you want but not boring. You mentioned in a previous post at the interest you had in a game, there's one bit of passion. Take up a few hobbies to see if there is other aspects you like. (World's worst person at this but it does help).
I think you're building people up too much in your mind. Most people talk about the most brain dead mind numbing **** possible. Be that football, some stupid TV show or whatever.
I would say be tough on yourself. Get a routine going for hygiene and also fitness. Try at least one new thing a month, do basic research on the lined up things so you can at least talk about it briefly. Listen to a new album a week. Read a book a week.
And get socialising online first and then try the dating. Get comfortable with your own voice again.
Then you'll just have the problem of finding other people boring
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LOL at suggesting online dating in a mental health thread. Basically absolute torture if you're not in the 90th percentile looks-wise.
Disagree. Sure it makes it more difficult but not crazily so. But it would be good to strike up a few conversations etc. And you only need to get lucky once!
I've found in the past I can get really irritable skin with certain washing machine gels/powders. Changing brand got rid of the problem.I developed eczema due to severe stress when my dad was sick. After he passed away it disappeared. I used to get really itchy legs and hips weirdly, now I only get it occasionally but not sure if that's because my diet is different now. I've read if you get itchy arms and the skin almost looks like chicken skin, it could be a sign of a gluten intolerance. (For me I did have an issue with gluten so rarely get the itching now) Unfortunately a lot of doctors don't seem interested in allergy tests you have to really push for it sometimes. I had no luck so went elsewhere in the end.
It could also just be dry skin
Yes that's a good point. I used to find imperial leather shower gel caused itching and a red blotchy rash for me, though the cotton clouds one seems ok. That said anything with SLS in can dry your skin out. I switched to Westlab cleansing shower wash a couple of years ago so that probably also explains why my itching has improved.
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In other news, it just goes to show how much sleep can affect your mental health. I've slept much better the last few days (with the odd bad sleep in between). I also started a 6 week fitness program on Monday and though my legs have ached etc I've carried on with it and have been feeling so much better mentally this week
Caporegime
Has anyone on here tried cold water therapy? I've always thought the likes of Wim Hof were just nutters but I've noticed there's a local club near me who do sea dips a few mornings a week. They all swear by it and some recent studies do seem to point towards there being tangible benefits.
My sleep pattern has been terrible since I've stopped going out walking/jogging. I ordered a scarf so I can avoid freezing cold air going up my hooter, so fingers crossed I can get out again.In other news, it just goes to show how much sleep can affect your mental health. I've slept much better the last few days (with the odd bad sleep in between). I also started a 6 week fitness program on Monday and though my legs have ached etc I've carried on with it and have been feeling so much better mentally this week
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I go for a walk most days of about a mile and when i do i feel much better mentally and i sleep better.
LOL at suggesting online dating in a mental health thread. Basically absolute torture if you're not in the 90th percentile looks-wise.
I dunno, I think that largely depends on your strength of character which has very little to do with mental health imo. My experience with online dating felt like a separate part of my life when I was going through my breakdown. If anything, it allowed me the space to be someone else for a while. Not to say that I would lie to women on dates, more that they had no idea who I was or what I was going through and that was incredibly refreshing.
Perhaps the space has changed since I was last there though. Been a good 5 years since I was on them and I was one of those rare types who actually seemed to enjoy it.
Caporegime
I can’t sleep for more than 3 hours a night. Even Lorazepam’s not really helpingMy sleep pattern has been terrible since I've stopped going out walking/jogging. I ordered a scarf so I can avoid freezing cold air going up my hooter, so fingers crossed I can get out again.
Feel awful for those who are suffering alone with it at the moment. Not easy for anyone at the best of times but the world is weighing so heavy at the moment.
A coping mechanism I used to get past the worst of it back in the day was the classic of 'don't run, face it down'. Seems that my brains performed some weird inversion of that tactic now whereby when I feel anxious I get incredibly forward and snappy. Fall into days of believing almost everyone to be total buttholes, then come out the other end of it feeling pretty normal, then back into the butthole mentality etc...
Pretty bizarre symptom, but I'll take it over numb hands and panic attacks any day. Probably just a reaction to me getting older and less tolerant xD
A coping mechanism I used to get past the worst of it back in the day was the classic of 'don't run, face it down'. Seems that my brains performed some weird inversion of that tactic now whereby when I feel anxious I get incredibly forward and snappy. Fall into days of believing almost everyone to be total buttholes, then come out the other end of it feeling pretty normal, then back into the butthole mentality etc...
Pretty bizarre symptom, but I'll take it over numb hands and panic attacks any day. Probably just a reaction to me getting older and less tolerant xD
Soldato
I presumed this was just me getting older, less tolerant and more confident. I'm right, everyone else is a butthole!
Caporegime
Well I’ve just had the best nights sleep in over a year!
Doc doubled my dose of Lorazepam and last night I slept from around midnight till 8:15, then fell back until 10:30
I feel bright and refreshed for once this morning
Don’t want to get addicted to Benzo’s, but don’t want to spend every day as a spaced out zombie either.
Doc doubled my dose of Lorazepam and last night I slept from around midnight till 8:15, then fell back until 10:30
I feel bright and refreshed for once this morning
Don’t want to get addicted to Benzo’s, but don’t want to spend every day as a spaced out zombie either.
Caporegime
I'm not sure if this is down to the current pandemic, it certainly isn't helping, but I am feeling a bit lost right now. All of the hobbies and interests that used to excite me and fill me with wonder no longer do anything for me. I workout 5 times a week but that's more lifestyle than a pure hobby like it used to be. I keep searching for the next thing that will spark my passion but draw blanks. I keep buying things thinking they will give me enjoyment, only to return them.
I used to wake up in the morning and get pumped to hit the gym, or I couldn't wait to finish work and do some PC gaming.
I'm probably just a bit burnt out with each day just feeling the same, not a lot to get excited about.
Can anyone else related?
I used to wake up in the morning and get pumped to hit the gym, or I couldn't wait to finish work and do some PC gaming.
I'm probably just a bit burnt out with each day just feeling the same, not a lot to get excited about.
Can anyone else related?
@LiE for sure. Every day seems much like the previous one currently. I didn't work from March-November which was the absolute worst. It was the first time I've ever been unemployed prior to first full time job and I felt very useless and shameful as I was using UC.
However, I then started my new job which spurred me on but unfortunately we have to work from home which I hate. So because of that, it still feels the same bar I'm getting a salary again and I'm working/training instead of gaming all day.
I am not the most social person but I miss being able to talk to colleagues in the office or ask for help without feeling like I'm bothering them on Skype all the time. To be fair, work have put zero pressure on me at all and there is a lot of support out there but you can't replace that social interaction with video calls.
Thing is, I don't even have many outdoor hobbies, but because I can't do stuff now it's making me want to. I'm going to start growing some plants again, I used to love my chilli growing season so I'm trying tomatoes this year. I find it helps to have that responsibility of sorts even if it's just watering something.
However, I then started my new job which spurred me on but unfortunately we have to work from home which I hate. So because of that, it still feels the same bar I'm getting a salary again and I'm working/training instead of gaming all day.
I am not the most social person but I miss being able to talk to colleagues in the office or ask for help without feeling like I'm bothering them on Skype all the time. To be fair, work have put zero pressure on me at all and there is a lot of support out there but you can't replace that social interaction with video calls.
Thing is, I don't even have many outdoor hobbies, but because I can't do stuff now it's making me want to. I'm going to start growing some plants again, I used to love my chilli growing season so I'm trying tomatoes this year. I find it helps to have that responsibility of sorts even if it's just watering something.
Haven't gone to those extremes but a good cold blast in the shower does wonders to get you moving.
Just switch the temp to cold quickly after your usual shower and you get a nice little boost
Soldato
Yep. I'm feeling very unmotivated at present. It feels like I'm working for nothing at the moment as I can't enjoy spending my disposable income on the things we as a family enjoy. Forst world problems eh?
I also feel weirdly guilty for feeling like this as we as a family have barely been affected by the pandemic. We've both worked full time on full pay throughout and our daughter has been in nursery full time.
Lockdown has given me a new found respect for those people who work at home full time and remain productive. I just can't keep the motivation up and there's too many distractions, which also makes me feel guilty!
Going by our team meetings, you're certainly not alone. I think 95% of our team are feeling a bit rubbish at present and most of us have spent our evenings procrastinating in front of the TV / Pc. I think the conversation highlight was someone showing us their new Oodie.
Caporegime
Stuck in a similar cycle working from home, wasn't too bad during the lighter nights/warmer weather. I finish work and then just waste time until going to bed, can't bring myself to do anything productive and it's starting to take its toll.
My mental state is always better when I consistently choose to do something uncomfortable rather than spend every evening in front of the TV or PC. Since March, I'm constantly seeking comfort rather than the challenge and I can't snap out of it.
My mental state is always better when I consistently choose to do something uncomfortable rather than spend every evening in front of the TV or PC. Since March, I'm constantly seeking comfort rather than the challenge and I can't snap out of it.
Caporegime
Thanks, it helps a little to know I’m not alone. I spoke to my boss and he agreed to let me have today and tomorrow off work. Just trying to have time for myself.
Things I used to enjoy hobby wise just don't make me enthusiastic anymore either. I think it's because I miss my routine of finishing work and looking forward to getting home do do things.
I was meant to be doing an exam but just haven't had the interest to study for it so have postponed.
I am living at work, not working from home.