I understand, it's a disgusting thing for someone to do, and is not acceptable in any way.It's more the principle, I have to pay for everything, we have 4 children and its just not right. I don't underhand how it's acceptable.
I understand, it's a disgusting thing for someone to do, and is not acceptable in any way.It's more the principle, I have to pay for everything, we have 4 children and its just not right. I don't underhand how it's acceptable.
It's more the principle, I have to pay for everything, we have 4 children and its just not right. I don't underhand how it's acceptable.
On principle, why do you think she should pay if she doesn't see the kids and is no longer involved in their upbringing?You can't talk to her, she's been here once in 18 months. I sent her a long carefully worded email recently to try to make her see sense.
Really? Because she made choices to bring 4 children into the world and until they can support themselves she can’t just sack off the responsibility ‘cos she doesn’t feel like itOn principle, why do you think she should pay if she doesn't see the kids and is no longer involved in their upbringing?
Cottage is a rental, cars are paid for because they're old now. She runs a business selling things she makes and resells on Facebook.
She doesn't contribute ANYTHING, not even school shoes etc.
I get how they work it out but I'm positive she's fudging figures
I suspect she doesnt pay tax on her sales and hence no visible income. Maybe HMRC need to know
When 2 people decide they aren't fit to be parents and put their child up for adoption, nobody has a problem with it. Why should it be any different for 1 parent? People should have the right to relinquish their parental rights and responsibilities. The single parent should bear the costs of bringing up the children if they can afford to, and if they can't then yes the state should bear some of the costs, that's what we pay taxes for. They should not be looking for handouts from absent biological parents that are effectively nothing more than sperm/egg donors.Really? Because she made choices to bring 4 children into the world and until they can support themselves she can’t just sack off the responsibility ‘cos she doesn’t feel like it
Access is neither here nor there
Put the boot on the other foot - do you think the State should be picking up the costs of bringing up children because their absent fathers don’t want to pay (in the vast majority of cases, it is absent fathers). Society’s answer in “no”
Sounds like something my brother went through with his ex, he offered to give her money towards the upbrinding right from the get go, she accepted and then gradually started to ask for more and more, considering he hasn't seen his girl since she was only a few weeks old (she's approaching 2 years old) he out right refused to increase it anymore, his ex got really nasty and I mean completely lost the plot crazy, he just stopped making payments completely, went direct to child support with proof he had been paying so they couldn't try fleece him, she now gets the minimum, substantially less than she was before, my brother still hasn't been allowed to see his daughter. She even tried to leave the country and move to Spain where her family are, but my brother refused to sign the passport application.
Women wanted equality, they got way more rights than they should in my opinion.
That is brutal, Dads always get the rough end of these deals. Always. Can’t he go to the courts to see his child?
He is now, he gave her ample opportunity to be civil, now he's in the process of throwing the book at her figuratively speaking.
On principle, why do you think she should pay if she doesn't see the kids and is no longer involved in their upbringing?
So you believe there is something wrong with people who "desert" their children when they put them up for adoption? I've never heard such drivel before. The children will be looked after regardless since we live in a welfare state.It's called responsibility. If you really have no problem with someone deserting their children then there is something wrong with you.
Sort of a completely different situation there though, isn't it? Not really sure how you think they're the same. Are you 12?So you believe there is something wrong with people who "desert" their children when they put them up for adoption? I've never heard such drivel before. The children will be looked after regardless since we live in a welfare state.
Completely different scenarios, completely.So you believe there is something wrong with people who "desert" their children when they put them up for adoption? I've never heard such drivel before. The children will be looked after regardless since we live in a welfare state.
If 2 parents can relinquish their parental rights through adoption, why shouldn't 1 parent be allowed to do so? No difference from a moral point of view. Honestly I think child maintenance should be scrapped entirely, it just seems like a system for beggars to get free handouts. If you have equal joint custody then there is no reason why one side should pay another. If for some reason you want and are given full or main custody, you should bear the full costs since you get the benefits from raising the children.Sort of a completely different situation there though, isn't it? Not really sure how you think they're the same. Are you 12?
Nope, no difference. OP hasn't really gone into much detail of the circumstances, but at the end of the day there is no blanket right or wrong, only the person "deserting" them can make that judgement for their particular circumstances.Completely different scenarios, completely.
Do you have kids out of curiosity?If 2 parents can relinquish their parental rights through adoption, why shouldn't 1 parent be allowed to do so? No difference from a moral point of view. Honestly I think child maintenance should be scrapped entirely, it just seems like a system for beggars to get free handouts. If you have equal joint custody then there is no reason why one side should pay another. If for some reason you want and are given full or main custody, you should bear the full costs since you get the benefits from raising the children.