Mat, you've probably already decided what you're going to do so I'm not going to add anything other than to agree with what Kitten said above.kitten_caboodle said:There's no right or wrong answer here. When you speak to them you'll know what to do, and whatever decision you make will be the right one.
Once you've done it, it's done - don't dwell on whether you should have done it differently. You're dealing with something really horrible, and you have my thoughts with you while you're doing it.
The time would be minus 5 hours from us, so around 12.Gilly said:Had a good chat with my uncle. I'm going to tell them, but also tell them that all the arrangements have been made and that the funeral will be after they get back. Then it is up to them whether they want to cut short the holiday or not.
Thanks for all your kind comments and advice. I'm expecting them to be in touch very soon. They'll know as soon as possible
Also, what is the time over there right now? By my calculations it should be late morning?
Thats the way I'm looking at it. Not only does he no longer have to while away hours barely able to speak through loss of basic motor functions, but he's back with my Grandma. They were married for over 60 years and since she passed away he's never been the same.Belmit said:Anyway, it comes as something of a relief that my friend is no longer in pain so I don't know how I feel right now. It helps that I knew it was coming and that I got a chance to effectively say goodbye before it happened. I think I might go and sit in the sun and have a beer now, I'm sure it's what he would be doing if he was here.
Gilly said:Thats the way I'm looking at it. Not only does he no longer have to while away hours barely able to speak through loss of basic motor functions, but he's back with my Grandma. They were married for over 60 years and since she passed away he's never been the same.
One of the Doc's said he could help mend pretty much anything but a broken heart.
He never gave up though. A lot of people have told me things about people who have died soon after their long-term spouse. He was too much of a fighter for that.
I'm going for a drink with some friends tonight. He wouldn't want me sat around moping.