What male greetings/acknowledgements for young female acquaintances/random persons?

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peteruk said:
there's something I'm a bit hazy about that I never really noticed before. Basically, what noun do I use for girls my age in situations such as friendly greetings, functional talking and general chatter?

That just reeks of too much time spent on internet forums.

Doll face or Sweet Cheeks are your only real options, follow it up with a quick slap on their backside, they love it ;) (include the wink)
 
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OOO, pirate day. My friend dressed up a few years ago as a pirate. Cardboard boxes were turned into ships which they wore around their waists (suspended by braces) and had a little hat with a sail on it. Then they made some cutlasses with silver foil and more cardboard before going out on a Friday evening. They got stopped by the police but I think after the guy realised they were probably mentally unstable, left them alone but confiscated their cutlasses! They also spoke pirate all day - including to the officers (yes, it was actually an armoured police van which stopped them).

It almost beats the time they dressed up as robots with cardboard bodies (one was painted pink and was 'attacking people' if you know what I mean :D - a bit like blobby but a little more 'mature'). Then they went to a club somewhere (where was it now) and were let in to be unleashed on an unsuspecting public. I have seen the pictures....

Anyway, other than that time, I've never heard anyone call a girl 'wench' and I'm sure a slap would ensue if he did.
 
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Gilly said:
I used it, and I'm from Yorkshire. Hence the southerner point - I thought I'd made that clear.

I use it, and I'm in Kent. Said with a friendly smile, it sounds fine and usually gets me a smile in return. I use it all the time.
 
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Jest3r said:
hey trouble with a smile is normally good, or shorty <snip>
OMG, you reminded me of one I haven't used in a long time - 'hey short stuff'!

Man, I always used to use this. OK, I'm not exactly a giant at 6ft/6ft1 but I always seem to use it.
 
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peteruk said:
Evening everyone,

I've realised recently that there's this lil area in socialising I'm not quite sure about. I've started sixth form this year, and as you’d have been meeting lots of new people, both on the way to and from, as well as at the place.

However, there's something I'm a bit hazy about that I never really noticed before. Basically, what noun do I use for girls my age in situations such as friendly greetings, functional talking and general chatter?

I don't think I'm making much sense here, so I think it's easier if I show the male equivalent, which seems more straight forward to me. The term I would use for guys more or less my age is usually 'mate', but sometimes 'dude', 'pal' and even 'man'; I switch to 'sir' if they appear somewhat older. This would fill all kinds of aforementioned situations, creating lines such as: "Hey mate." (passing someone you recognize in the street), "Cheers mate." (when someone holds a door open for you), "How's it going mate?/Excuse me mate, has the 44 gone already?" Etc. etc.

Hopefully now, you're getting more what I mean. There’re a number of words I could use, but none of them quite seem to fit. Examples:

"Miss" - Sounds like you're talking to a teacher.
"Love" - This always seems a little disrespectful and archaic to me.
"Hunni/Hun/Honey" - Well, as you can see, it's not the most palatable of terms, and perhaps best left in the world of girl interaction.
"Girl" - Again, disrespectful and perhaps chauvinistic.
"Babe" - A bit pretentious
"mate" - I guess some people probably use this, but not sure if it fits for girls.
"madam" - I use this solely for much older women.

I guess what most people would say is just leave out any such word, but I feel that seems a bit less friendly and more awkward. Maybe I am just strange, and that's what most people do anyway. When you get to know them better, it's a totally different business of course.

Your thoughts appreciated. :)


Hand them 10 bucks and say "Shake it baby"
 
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Von Luck said:
Over-chumminess makes my skin crawl.
How can something so trivial annoy you so much? I don't understand :confused:

I sometimes say "Cheers mate" if people let me passed or hold a door etc, but not often. But, if people use these words with me, it doesn't bother me at all. In fact I like it.

It's just a way of being that little bit more friendly, it works for some people and doesn't for others.
 
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Scott Salisbury said:
How can something so trivial annoy you so much? I don't understand :confused:

I sometimes say "Cheers mate" if people let me passed or hold a door etc, but not often. But, if people use these words with me, it doesn't bother me at all. In fact I like it.

It's just a way of being that little bit more friendly, it works for some people and doesn't for others.


Im with the Luckmeister on this one, i HATE being called mate.
I'm not anybodies "mate" or "pal".

Everybody who knows me calls me john and should they make it known they are called by whatever they prefere in return, such as their first name, nickname or whatever.

The only exception to this rule is my girlfriend who has this thing with calling me "babe".
But because she lets me have sex with her i let her get away with it.

I better put an addition, if the guys offered to let me have sex with them in return for calling me "mate" or whatever, then the most i could promise them is that i would consider it, i dont want to be known as someone who doesnt stand by their principles.
 
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Whats wrong with just using their name?
I don't like being called babe, hun, flower, chicken, petal, Love, girl, bird etc.
I find them very condescending and disrespectful.
If you are someones friend or you have just met, I personally do not see the need to use words like that.
If you want to say thankyou to a women for something why not just say "Thankyou very much" Instead of "Thanks babe, love etc"
Or if a women has held open the door for you why not just ask them their name, If you want to talk to people thats a good way to start a converstation and you get to say thankyou to them personally.
 

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I use hun and babe, for some reason I would not think of saying "Hey mate" to a female friend. That just seems a little strange to me. Then again a female bartender in the pub kept calling me "love" (geordie) and it felt a bit weird, maybe I should lay off it :p
 
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Im with the Luckmeister on this one, i HATE being called mate.
I'm not anybodies "mate" or "pal".

Everybody who knows me calls me john and should they make it known they are called by whatever they prefere in return, such as their first name, nickname or whatever.

The only exception to this rule is my girlfriend who has this thing with calling me "babe".
But because she lets me have sex with her i let her get away with it.

I better put an addition, if the guys offered to let me have sex with them in return for calling me "mate" or whatever, then the most i could promise them is that i would consider it, i dont want to be known as someone who doesnt stand by their principles.

Why the **** would it bother you so much? Would you rather somebody didnt hold the door open for you since hes not your "mate".
 
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I just blatantly abbreviate their name, if I don't know it I just stick to "Heya" "Cheers" etc etc. Seems to work fine.

Examples.
I see a mate "Hey Em z" (Sorry for the space, twas one of them magical three letter words. :))
I see someone random holding a door, not often I might add. ;) "Thx/Cheers"
 
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Jonny ///M said:
Why the **** would it bother you so much? Would you rather somebody didnt hold the door open for you since hes not your "mate".


I dont mind people opening doors for me, or opening doors for them, doesnt make me their mate.

Thats the point.
IT takes rather more than an act of common courtesy to make me your friend for life.
 
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ElRazur said:
I hope she's reading that. Disrespectful i think.

Thats called a joke.
I know i know i didnt sent your the telegram till last wednesday, but that should have been soon enough to get to you by today top tell you it was coming.
 
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