Parents - In here! (or anyone else who fancys sharinig an opinion)

[Phate]

How do you know it's 2nd hand? If I bought my child a bed from EBay i'd give it a good cleaning before using it anyway just incase.

It states on the auction it's 3 years old and his kid has grown out of it.

 

[Richdog]

Obviously it would. But the OP isn't buying it so how would he know what it would say in the auction.

Erm... his mate has told him about it, hence this thread?

 

[POB]

A £600 bed that is a few years old should last much longer then a £150 bed.

 

[Slinwagh]

Our lass bought the young un a bed off ebay.

It was still brand new.

But I don't see a problem buying 2nd hand if it is clean and in good nick.

[edit]I'm assuming new mattress

 

[v0latile]

I dont see why ppl have problems with it having a 2nd hand mattress. Do you think Hotels/hospitals change the mattress everyweek? and you still sleep in them.

 

[paul8811]

Bought a few 2nd hand items for our daughter of the Bay, people sell stuff in bundles & you can get a ton of clothes & toys for next to nothing. We just chuck out anything we dont like or looks a bit worn. They go through so much stuff in the first year or so dont see any harm.

 

[sanaxe1]

I see no problem with it as long as its in good condition and im guessing it is seems its still £150 and the comparrison with the tv is stupid. People are more likely to spend more money on a tv then they would a bed as they would spend more money on a car then a tv etc.

 

[Phate]

I think it's none of your business really

That's why I posted on here which he doesn't browse and not say it to his face. I thought that was obvious

you don't know his situation

Which is what I said earlier.

you haven't seen this exact bed, if it's a minter then why not get it for a bargain, second hand or not does it make any difference?

None. But I know that I would always spend money over my son instead of myself.

It appears you've jumped to the conclusion because he bought his son a second hand bed he doesn't look after him properly

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What utter tosh! That's got to be the biggest load of tripe that's been said to me on this forum. I never said he was a bad parent, and I'm sure he's not, he's a wonderful person (from what we see at work) and I'm sure he's the same at home.

I wouldn't suggest you say that to him as I'm sure he'd be very angry and offended as I would be if someone was judging how I treat my little boy

I wasn't asking whether I should say to him or not, I asked of others opinions on buying the bed. I would NEVER tell anyone how to parent their child or judge them for it either!

Jeez.

 

[Phate]

Has he managed to save up to buy himself a new telly because he's saved on other stuff, such as buying adequate furniture off eBay rather than overpriced in high street shops?

No he's inherited.

 

[Helium_Junkie]

I wouldnt buy a second hand mattress, but second hand frame is fine, £150 down from £600 seems like good sense rather than selfishness...

 

[Phate]

How do you know he isn't going to replace the mattress?

I don't, he's the sort of person that says stuff without you asking about them, so he'll most likely mention when/if he does buy a new mattress.

 

[Jonnycoupe]

Hello all,

A work colleague has just bought a new bed for his son.

He bought it off eBay for £150, he said they are £600 new.

Now I don't know what his financial situation is like but I know that when/if I have kids, like all parents, I will provide the best life possible for them, and unless necessary I certainly won't be buying anything second hand!

I didn't comment to him about buying a bed off eBay, especially for his 6 year old! but what's your opinion of it?

And recently he said he inherited a fair amount of cash (has been asking for advice on 50" tv's and new pc's etc) but yet he bought his 6 year olds bed from eBay!!!

Personally I think it's wrong and he shouldn't be selfish and should have bought the kid a new bed.

What do you guys think?

£450 saving goes towards paying the mortgage,

Get off your high horse.

 

[Mr_L]

I can't see what the problem is. Sounds like the kid has got a cool and expensive bed on the cheap, I'm sure he gets to use the big 50" TV, too.

 

[VIRII]

Read my posts, it's not brand new.

Bed and Mattress are 3 years old.

When I went to boarding school we had bunkbeds, I seriously doubt they put new beds and mattresses in every year
And the boarding fees were huge. When I go to a hotel I doubt they put a new bed and mattress in every time someone books a room. I'd expect clean sheets though

 

[Jonnycoupe]

How old is his son anyway?

I'd see it as an investment in his immune system anyway, not only has he saved money on the bed but in the future wont have to take so many days off work because his son is ill with something hes caught at school.

50" TV for playing console games with your son and the coolness factor when his friends come round = win. The're not interested in his bed.

 

[dun]

If the frame is in good condition I can't see a problem, just give it a good wash when you get it. Personally I wouldn't buy a 3 year old mattress though (or any second hand mattress)

 

[eddiemcgarrigle]

Personally, I wouldn't buy anything for my son that was second hand. My son puts a smile on my face every day without exception with his antics, and I wouldn't repay that by buying him something that wasn't shiny and new.

 

[Deiwos]

Swap the mattress, jobs a goodun.

 

[Cuchulain]

I would NEVER tell anyone how to parent their child or judge them for it either!

No, what you'd do is be a coward and discuss what you consider a friends shortcomings with a bunch of random people on a public forum.

 

[VIRII]

Personally, I wouldn't buy anything for my son that was second hand. My son puts a smile on my face every day without exception with his antics, and I wouldn't repay that by buying him something that wasn't shiny and new.

I'm not sure that you would be teaching him any good lessons that way. In an age when recycling is so important and when landfills are a serious issue and our "throwaway" culture is killing our planet.
There is nothing wrong with second hand things, indeed a lot of older items are far better build quality.
I wouldn't give a baby a second hand car seat or mattress for safety reasons. However I have slept on many beds and mattresses that had many, many previous occupants both in school, rented accomodation, barracks, hotels and so on.
I fully expect to give my younger daughter her odler sisters bicycle, I expect my older daughters toys to be played with by my younger daughter. Why spend the money twice? Why throw away perfectly good items? Why fill more landfill?
I bought my daughter a second hand PS2, Xbox and Gamecube. I buy second hand games for them. I can afford new but I'd rather recycle and save cash on such items myself.