Firstly, in this post and this is important, I would like to say that my definition of a Christian is one that believes Jesus was the Son of God, was crucified and was resurrected so that people may be forgiven of their sins. I.e. the full blown OT/NT Jesus loving Christians. None of this half way house stuff.
CDj-Rossi said:
This thread is a joke right?
You know, there are a lot of people in the situation the OP is in and it can be very stressful. There are essentially 2 outcomes.
1) Does the Christian
follow their faith to the letter and
not date the non Christian; or
2) Does the Christian
ignore one aspect of their faith
to date the non Christian
jezsoup said:
Aye,
No sex before marriage!
Now baring in mind the two points above, if the Christian does date the non Christian there are likely to be two opposing views on the “no sex before marriage” issue. One may think it is ok the other may see it as against their faith.
But to be clear the whole “no sex before marriage” is an issue that affects couples in a relationship when they are both Christians as well so, it is not exclusive to this situation.
There are some very sound reasons for the whole “no sex before marriage” if you are a Christian, I don’t think it is necessary to go into them in this thread
blighter said:
I do respect them, and am definatly not going to encourage her to rebel.
Has anyone on here been in a smiliar situation?
It is a difficult situation to be in and I have known loads of people in the same boat as you.
It would be useful to know what exactly she believes in and what exactly her faith entails, as per my definition of a Christian at the top of this post. The reason I say this is, if she is a proper Christian (to the definition) then all the rules apply, if it was some half way house denomination of the faith who ignore some teachings in the bible but practice others then it can make a difference. (There are denominations and sects within the primary ones)
This really is a hard one for both of you, and, in the strictest sense, you two should not date. There are many reasons for this which include having two different outlooks on life (even if you are similar) where one believes in Jesus being the Son of God and one doesn’t. The most obvious things that can come out of this are;
1) Sex before marriage is a no no. However this is too big a thing to discuss in this thread/post and can easily be misunderstood.
2) Going to Church can be an important part of a Christian’s life for the teaching and sharing of fellowship/friendship with other Christians, so if the Christian wants to go, the non-Christian should happily go along too (which I think you have been), or be supportive of this.
3) One of the hardest things about being in a Christian + Non-Christian relationship for the Christian (especially), is not being able to share your faith and build each others faith as you would do if you were both Christians. For Christians, having God/Jesus at the centre of your relationship is a key foundation.
In truth though, only you two can make the decision of whether to date, and this stage is not as stressful as dealing with the above three points which will crop up.
Christian + Non-Christian relationships do work out.