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Just had my 2nd week of “profit” where export was more than import. Octopus Agile import and Octopus fixed export. May only be £4 up over 2 weeks but wouldn’t have it without a smart meter.

Just switch to Octopus now. I know a few who have. Some even gave up on SP and getting their credit after over a year. Took me 16 months to get SP to payout my first SEG payment. I submitted my 2nd reading 6 months after and switched to Octopus 2 days after that. Took them about 4 days to move...

Thanks. I’m sure I will feel better. It’s a journey and I’m doing ok. Already got the animals. She took the new puppy but left the 2 cats and our aged dog who just needs to be without change til the end. Snoring next to me now actually. :)

Well the toughest week is over. She moved out and has gone. Came home this week to an empty house. Whilst I appreciate the end and the anxiety is down, I now just have a huge sense of loss. The finality of this moment and not having my kids in the house is so painful. Woke up for the first...

Yes short term thinking on her part. She says it because she hates being pushed into a corner so pushed back. She was quite happy to just lose everything to be spiteful as life was getting tough. In the house for the duration of our relationship I did all the admin. I even sorted the house...

Update She is moving out next week and renting a house. Finally getting my space back and not having to share the house. On a practical sense it means finances are tight until I can buy her out and get off tracker mortgage but can manage. She is contributing a bit to help with the interest...

Appreciate it. Countdown for divorce is on and I am actually feeling good about both it and the future. She isn’t who I remember and I have become comfortable with that.

Divorce email arrived today. Little bit early but at least I have it now. Tick box reason. Hoping to get through the short term stuff and be on my own very soon. Feeling surprisingly upbeat about the future. Counselling is done for now and has helped loads. Just need to get on with it now...

Well onwards we go. She finally filed for divorce. Clarity obtained. Emailed the solicitor tonight to get him lined up. Some very specific short term stuff to do and then a waiting game. Limbo has gone. Still upset I’m in this place but at least I know what is happening now. Likely going...

Head melting today. Anxiety and apprehension for Monday and talking to a counsellor as 2 of us. I really want the closure but unsure how it is going to go. Logically prepared but struggling to get the emotions in check. Doesn't help its my weekend without the kids so wont see them until...

I’ve switched from offline using Microsoft Money to using YNAB (You Need A Budget) which allows me to categorise, connect to multiple banks and set targets. It does have a fee but works really well and tbh I’ve saved more than the fee in the first month as I feel I can control my actual...

An odd one. Talked to her Wednesday. Clear about a few things and got to say my piece. I’m now far more comfortable moving on and accepting it. I still think she is lying to me about something and I think I know what but she just won’t admit it. For stepping forward and for the kids we are...

Been through it? How she feel absolutely impacts on him. It was a relationship between 2 people. How each other feels directly affects the other in many ways. I fully understand what he means. Feeling you are the only one in pain from a life changing event that is supposed to affect 2...

A positive outcome. Hopefully it is helpful you overall.

I’ve been running again today which helped a bit. Weight still coming off. 18st 5ish and now down to 15st 10 in 7 weeks. I’ll be better after Wednesday as I won’t have to see or speak to her again. Will likely block her fully on all media and just tell her txt or email only. No Facebook...

@valve90210 how did it go? Are you ok?

You will get through it. You are strong enough to do it and will be better after. I am dreading seeing mine on Wednesday when she gets back. I am putting the boundaries in place and putting myself first and I know that conversation is going to be hard and as such the anxiety is kicking in...

Asked. Can’t be done. She has every right to access the home.

So many things. I won’t keep listing them but the more time I think about it the worse she gets. She’s so selfish at the moment and hasn’t thought about the kids through any of this. It’s all about her. Now it’s time to break that cycle. A harsh conversation and putting my kids first. Time to...

Yup. That is one of the things that broke me and made me decide I’m done. He’s really hurt and doesn’t know what to feel but I’m glad he knows. She is what she is. She also had our youngest the other weekend. And scheduled a nail appointment for herself so made him sit in a salon bored for an...