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Poll: Can girls and guys be 'just good' friends?

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by IwantanewPC, 16 Sep 2009.

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Which one are you?

  1. I can have a strictly platonic relationship with a woman.

    332 vote(s)
    64.6%
  2. I'm the type of guy who just can't keep it in his pants however hard I try.

    182 vote(s)
    35.4%
  1. IwantanewPC

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    Or will there always be feelings from one side, either initially or developed?

    And is it different for men and women? Do women find it easier to be just friends with guys than men do with women?
     
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  2. ganesh

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    I think there will be some attraction there subconcious or not. It's just human nature.
     
  3. Grrrrr

    Soldato

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    I don't think so. There will always be some kind of feelings from at least one side whether they come to the forefront or not.
     
  4. RDM

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    Of course they can, I have several female friends I have absolutely zero intention of sleeping with.
     
  5. SexyGreyFox

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    no
     
  6. mjt

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    be honest, it crosses your mind :p
     
  7. Grrrrr

    Soldato

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    That's only a 1 direction point of view
     
  8. Burnsy2023

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    I agree. Not everything is about sex.
     
  9. Nitefly

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    I think this sums it up pretty well.

    Well, it depends on how you look at it. We are built to reproduce successfully - everything else comes second. Obviously, sex isn't everything in terms of lifestyle.
     
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  10. siumatfung

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    it does but you grow out of it if you get what i mean u care about them but not in the same way as you used to
     
  11. jas72

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    Not all the time.

    I had a good friend when younger (teenage years) she would tell me about problems with b/friends and vice versa helped me understand a bit about women as well :D

    But never even went past plutonic for a second.
     
  12. mac1st3

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    Meh I've got a number of female friends who I'd never sleep with, pretty sure they'd not sleep with me, and we get on fine, the thought's never crossed my mind at least.

    though I know of many who are good friends and once they spend a lot of time alone together, they start acting kinda couple-ey and it turns out they slept together but kept it quiet lol, but then just went back to being friends
     
  13. Raymond Lin

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    Yes, but i will be lying if i say I will never.
     
  14. PinkFloyd

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    I've got female friends that are just friends.
    I'm not saying that I wouldn't though...... should the situation ever arise :p
     
  15. Burnsy2023

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    Not really. People you can have strictly platonic feeling about are rare, but they are out there.
     
  16. Alex UK

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  17. I DON'T fancy boys

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    This. Had a few "poetntial gf's" at points and they ended up really good friends in the end, which is sometimes better...
     
  18. semi-pro waster

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    I think it is perfectly possible to have good friendships with members of the opposite sex without it ever leading to anything further. That's not to say there definitely isn't an element of attraction there but that doesn't necessarily mean that it must develop into anything else.
     
  19. OzyOly

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    There are only 3 girls I'm friends with. One I don't fancy, another is with my best mate and for some reason I just don't fancy her anymore (spoiled goods?) and the third I can't think of as anything other than a sibling, she's an amazing friend.

    All other girls I'm 'friends' with, I fancy, haha.
     
  20. Nitefly

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    Sorry, I added to my original comment:

    Well, it depends on how you look at it. We are built to reproduce successfully - everything else comes second. Obviously, sex isn't everything in terms of lifestyle.

    Ooo underboos, congrats semi-pro :)