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'Don't call me mate'

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by Wryel, 19 Jun 2006.

  1. Wryel

    Wise Guy

    Joined: 26 Mar 2005

    Posts: 1,663

    Speaking to a user today and I suggested he bring his laptop over for us to look at and, as usual I ended the sentence with 'mate' - He then tells me quite rudely not to call him that stating 'you don't know me, I could be anyone'. I was quite confused by this, it didn't stop me calling him mate when he came over though! Really noticed how many people use it now, I can't believe he got so upset! - What the hell is wrong with some people?

  2. squiffy


    Joined: 17 Mar 2006

    Posts: 9,155

    Not really professional is it? ok on a building site, not a IT firm.
  3. Zefan


    Joined: 15 Jan 2006

    Posts: 30,894

    Location: Tosche Station

    I hate it too, but I just let it go.
  4. Nozzer


    Joined: 17 Oct 2002

    Posts: 9,495

    Location: Sunny South-East

    I'd have thrown his laptop out of the window.
  5. Bracco


    Joined: 25 Oct 2005

    Posts: 548

    I can't stand people using the word "mate". As the customer said, it should be reserved for people you know well and are in a situation to speak so casually to. It's even worse hearing men call women "mate", that really grates.
  6. JohnnyG

    Man of Honour

    Joined: 19 Nov 2002

    Posts: 18,963

    Location: Over land and sea.

    I wouldn't worry about it mate.
  7. Stelly


    Joined: 5 Oct 2005

    Posts: 11,045

    Location: Liverpool

    I think that I better stop then... I do use it quite a bit and didnt realise it offended... sorry :p

    Stelly (definately not your mate :D)
  8. Raumarik


    Joined: 14 Jul 2003

    Posts: 13,783

    If you get wound up about someone calling you mate then seriously get your head sorted it's hardly a big deal now is it mates?

    Nothing wrong with using it in IT, damn sure I'm not calling my users "sir" or "madame" sod that.

    Not like drug dealers call thier users "sir" very often.. well except that one time in Trainspotting if I remember correctly :D
  9. Wryel

    Wise Guy

    Joined: 26 Mar 2005

    Posts: 1,663


    It didn't really bother me, it was just stupid, fine if you don't like it but why be so rude? Besides, my telephone manner is second to none! Apart from the odd colloquilaism ;)
  10. Stellios


    Joined: 27 Aug 2004

    Posts: 17,023

    Location: Geordieland

    While its not very professional it is a bit more sociable. I much prefer being called, mate, Paul, stell etc rather than sir or Mr Steele, but some people dont like a sociable approach and prefer the more professional and upmarket way.
  11. The Pat

    Wise Guy

    Joined: 11 Apr 2006

    Posts: 1,861

    Location: London

    I don't get why people are offended by it. It's not like they're claiming they have been your friend for a while, they're just trying to be friendly.
  12. carvegio

    Wise Guy

    Joined: 23 Jun 2004

    Posts: 1,098

    Location: London

    maybe he thought you were using it in a condescending way or something?
  13. Efour


    Joined: 8 Sep 2005

    Posts: 26,653

    Location: Norrbotten, Sweden.

    im from East London and most people say "Mate" about 3 or 4 times a scentance :D

    It does get annoying but to overeact like that just shows that hes a bit of a ****. Obviously not from part of the country that uses it in common daily speech.

    Ive been in the same situation, me chatting to 3 blokes from Mansfield, they couldnt understand why i called em "mate" and for a sec i thought it was gonna get Lairy, lol.

    No Swearing! FF.
  14. fatiain


    Joined: 16 Oct 2004

    Posts: 7,655

    Location: Pratislava, Berk-shire

    Work fatiain, sir or madam.
    Play fatiain, buddy or darling.

    I do try to stop calling everyone 'buddy', I just can't.
  15. iCraig


    Joined: 21 Apr 2004

    Posts: 13,314

    Location: Wolverhampton

    Last time somebody had a go at me for calling them "mate" I turned around and said:

    "Ok.. I'm just being friendly but sod it, I'll call you ****face from now on then."
  16. reflex

    Wise Guy

    Joined: 8 Jan 2005

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    Location: Bideford/swansea uni

    I say 'dude' alot and it winds some people up, i can understand why :)
  17. carvegio

    Wise Guy

    Joined: 23 Jun 2004

    Posts: 1,098

    Location: London

    mate buddy or dude don't wind me up..

    But 'boss' does, annoys me a lot!
  18. Blackstar


    Joined: 8 Jan 2005

    Posts: 3,063

    Location: Edinburgh

    Try working in B&Q leery old men call me 'darlin' 'pet' 'love' 'sweety' 'babe' and that old Scottish favourite 'hen'. I'd love to tell them not to as it makes me uncomfortable but i can't. I don't mind people calling me mate even if they don't know me though.
  19. Charlie Bravo


    Joined: 18 Oct 2002

    Posts: 2,614

    Location: Chelmsford

    I call everyone mate apart from a manager at work who told me not to call him by that :rolleyes:

    Even some of the pilots at work use mate over the VHF. I really don't see what the problem is.

    To the OP, maybe you should call him ****.... alright ****, your laptops ready :p
  20. phill


    Joined: 25 Nov 2005

    Posts: 419

    I work for an IT firm and we get a lot of sales calls people trying to flog us stuff... always the same pitch and they call me 'mate' like I'm going to buy something off them when they call me that! VERY un-proffesional!

    I always use sir or madam when talking to our customers..