and that's where you discuss it with your future wife. "Since we're going to do a lot of stupid traditional stuff that everybody else does would you also like me to ask your Dad for your hand?", if the answer is no then don't do it.
My youngest should have got married on August 3rd but it's been shifted a year
They have got every 'traditional' box ticked and it's costing a lot. Even though they had been living with each other for 4 years Dave still came and asked me and I cried
The other daughter will dispense with all tradition and just get married in a Registry Office with parents there and no white wedding dress. I hope he asks me but he'll do it in a really stupid way.