The first step is actually wanting to quit so at least you have that down, i think its probably trying to find whatever works for you, try patches/gum and see if they work for you- although don't forget you still need the determination to see it through
I think the first step is getting the right approach - it is
not quitting. It is
not giving up.
"Quitting", "giving up" and all similar words and phrases are about failing. When someone looks at it in that way, they are making smoking their goal, not stopping smoking. They are saying "I am going to try to achieve smoking. If I don't smoke, I am failing." It is not just a wrong frame of mind, it's completely opposite to the right frame of mind.
Smoking is a particularly stupid way to take a really quite pointless drug:
You don't get much of a good effect from the drug.
It's highly addictive.
The drug delivery method does you a great deal of harm and lowers the quality of your life.
The drug delivery system poisons anyone within about 20 feet of you, inflicting harm on them and possibly killing them in a particularly nasty way.
It makes you smell foul.
It's very expensive, though admittedly cheaper than many drug habits.
So you're paying a lot of money to be a smelly drug addict who harms other people and blights their own body.
This is a goal to aim for? Not doing this is failure? Really?