Has anyone used a online dating agency?

quadboi · 15 Jul 2006 at 16:51

iCraig said:
Like.. a carpet?

Rofl, funny thread, dont try dating sites though, read others opinions

brid · 15 Jul 2006 at 16:55

Psyk said:
If any "girl" that I don't know contacts me on any social site like myspace, etc. I will just automatically assume it's a scam to get me signed up onto a porn site or something. That's why I can't be bothered with dating sites because what's the chances of an actual woman being interested in me based on just what I've written in my profile. Why would they message me ahead of all the people who lie about themselves to make them sound better than they are?

Think you have some issues to work out there mate!

Psyk · 15 Jul 2006 at 17:00

brid said:
Think you have some issues to work out there mate!

My point is I can't put my good points in writing. Some people can go on about their "cool" hobbies like playing the guitar or windsurfing and they will get interest based on that. Unless I completely lie and say I'm interested in that sort of thing, no one is going to notice my profile since it says nothing about who I am.

P.S. But you probably are right, I do have issues

manveruppd · 15 Jul 2006 at 17:02

sjohal2006 said:
Rofl, funny thread,

I see what you did there!

nealw · 15 Jul 2006 at 17:04

seek said:
myspace is for internet shaggers. i know a girl at my college (34y/o) who uses it to meet men / get laid.

better plan - go out. talk to people. get some.

profile please...

email in trust

brid · 15 Jul 2006 at 17:10

Psyk said:
My point is I can't put my good points in writing. Some people can go on about their "cool" hobbies like playing the guitar or windsurfing and they will get interest based on that. Unless I completely lie and say I'm interested in that sort of thing, no one is going to notice my profile since it says nothing about who I am.

P.S. But you probably are right, I do have issues

Well ... if you cant list hobbies or interests that women would like, or be able to write a profile that gets interest ...... what does that say about you? Perhaps your approaching things the wrong way. Ask yourself what kind of girl would go for someone who has self esteem problems and some kind of irrational dislike of anyone better than himself... hardly attractive is it?

Ive done quite a bit of online dating - and theres 2 approaches i first tried. The first was "take me as i am" one which went down like a lead balloon. The other one was the polar opposite of that and suddenly i was getting loads of messages.

Its a fantastic way to meet new people, and join different circles of friends completely. Anyone who puts it down for not being 'normal' i think probably have more problems than the people they put down for having the guts to do it..... oh and i definately get to try out more girls than they ever did

Funnily enough the women im with these days are 'real lifers' and not from the internet - but the net was a fantastic starting point.

Psyk · 15 Jul 2006 at 17:16

brid said:
Well ... if you cant list hobbies or interests that women would like, or be able to write a profile that gets interest ...... what does that say about you? Perhaps your approaching things the wrong way. Ask yourself what kind of girl would go for someone who has self esteem problems and some kind of irrational dislike of anyone better than himself... hardly attractive is it?

Ive done quite a bit of online dating - and theres 2 approaches i first tried. The first was "take me as i am" one which went down like a lead balloon. The other one was the polar opposite of that and suddenly i was getting loads of messages.

Why should I pretend to like things I don't? The fact it's pretty damn difficult to make my hobbies appeal to women. I'm sure there are things that some women would like about me but I have no idea how to put that into words. So your advice is to lie about who I am? Yeah I'm sure that'll go down well when I meet them and realise that I'm not who I said I was.

Spacky · 15 Jul 2006 at 17:19

I had a problem with online dating, she faked an online orgasm...I was livid as I spent 2 hrs typing to please her.

Metalface Mark · 15 Jul 2006 at 17:20

I gave it a whirl when i was seperated from my wife, it was great fun, and met a couple of nice girls on there, i could have had a different date for each night of the week, such was the volume of women on there.

brid · 15 Jul 2006 at 17:25

Psyk said:
Why should I pretend to like things I don't? The fact it's pretty damn difficult to make my hobbies appeal to women. I'm sure there are things that some women would like about me but I have no idea how to put that into words. So your advice is to lie about who I am? Yeah I'm sure that'll go down well when I meet them and realise that I'm not who I said I was.

Of course you dont need to lie - but think about it on a biological level .... humans are designed to go about attracting mates by taking what they have and presenting it in the best way they can. You should never pretend to be something you arent yeah, but if your saying making an effort to attract someone isnt one of your qualities... then what do you want to go on a dating site for.

Lastly... if your hobbies are something that are very difficult to make sound good, then perhaps those hobbies arent good for you and where you want to be?

It sounds harsh, but its true.

Psyk · 15 Jul 2006 at 17:34

brid said:
You should never pretend to be something you arent yeah, but if your saying making an effort to attract someone isnt one of your qualities... then what do you want to go on a dating site for.

I never said I did

brid said:
Lastly... if your hobbies are something that are very difficult to make sound good, then perhaps those hobbies arent good for you and where you want to be?

I'll just throw away my life then. Seriously though, I have my heart set on a certain career which is definitely not going to impress any girls, so there's a chance I won't be happy if I never find anyone. On the other hand I know I'll be miserable if I do anything else with my life, even if I have someone. To be honest I think it's kind of sad to base your hobbies around which is going to make it easier to get girls. I'd rather like the things I like because I like them.

Mobius 1 · 15 Jul 2006 at 17:46

I met a female in a chat room and got with her (AIM chat), for 3 years of my life.... >_> Now its ended and im free and single, and loving it. Even if i am crap with women. lol.

alexakasloth · 15 Jul 2006 at 19:00

I met my girlfriend on MSN

Scott Salisbury · 15 Jul 2006 at 19:05

$loth said:
I met my girlfriend on MSN

Me too lol

Didn't last though :rolleyes:

[TW]Fox · 15 Jul 2006 at 19:08

divosuk said:
Thats because they have no male friends

Males can't be friends with a woman unless they are gay.....

Rubbish.

Please disagree with me if any other males in here can honestly say they never have sexual thoughts about your female friends....

Some. And even the ones you do, there is nothing to stop you being good friends with them and nothing more.

alexakasloth · 15 Jul 2006 at 19:39

Scott Salisbury said:
Me too lol

Didn't last though

We will have been together for 3 years in October...

Stringy · 15 Jul 2006 at 19:44

[TW]Fox said:
Rubbish.

Some. And even the ones you do, there is nothing to stop you being good friends with them and nothing more.

Harry Burns: You realize of course that we could never be friends.
Sally Albright: Why not?
Harry Burns: What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form - is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally Albright: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: You only think you do.
Sally Albright: You say I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry Burns: No, what I'm saying is they all WANT to have sex with you.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: How do you know?
Harry Burns: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally Albright: So, you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry Burns: No. You pretty much want to nail 'em too.
Sally Albright: What if THEY don't want to have sex with YOU?
Harry Burns: Doesn't matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Sally Albright: Well, I guess we're not going to be friends then.
Harry Burns: I guess not.
Sally Albright: That's too bad. You were the only person I knew in New York.

Great movie

Replicant · 15 Jul 2006 at 19:53

iCraig said:
By talking to them.

But talking to random people whilst shopping seems a little odd to me.

PhantomKarl · 15 Jul 2006 at 19:57

So the way to go is to make yourself sound better than you are, but at the same time hobbies that you could possibly do. So work in reverse as in look from a womans perspective at what they want and make yourself there dream guy.

PhantomKarl · 15 Jul 2006 at 20:05

Should I go SpeedDating Again?

Should i give SpeedDating another go this will be the 4th time?