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Relation ship help please...........

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by Gavin, 4 May 2006.

  1. Gavin

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    Okkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk im 27 shes 32

    So ive been with current g/f for nearly a year now. We have had our ups and downs but nothing major. We try and see each other nearly every day.
    We have been through a lot together, with in that time one of my best friends died, and also her father passed away.

    More recently ive fallen of a roof and broken my ankle and cant work for 3 months

    Now i saw her last tuesday 25th and she wanted to see me on the wednesday but i had a hospital apointment early in the morning so i said leave it...........Now she was going out on thursday with the girls and then out with her sister to see a spiritualist on the friday...........

    We have been very happy recently and she has indeed been saying how she is and how much in love she is.

    Since then she has been not answering her phone and still refuses to talk to me.

    Only via text she says it isnt me etc........but obviously it is...........Now today she has signed in to msn still with the name life is good........


    Basically she is now saying its over and wants to be friends?

    How can people change there minds so quickly? i mean the weekend before the tuesday she bought a phone on a 18 month contract in her name for me?

    Surely that is not what a person does who doesnt want to be with me??

    Can anyone help me? should i just write it off as im so confused, its making it harder as she wont talk to me properly on the phone.

    Id rather she came out and said she had cheated on me or something

    I know it sounds selfish but its the last thing i want at the moment in my medical conidition
     
  2. HEADRAT

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    Sounds pretty final to me, not sure what advice people can offer other than see if you can get her to talk to you about it, if she won't talk and says it's over I'm not really sure there is much you can do!

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  3. daveyj27

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    Bad advice from the Spiritualist possibly?
     
  4. Gavin

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    Well this is what ive been thinking but her sister says nothing about me was said.
     
  5. Raumarik

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    I wouldn't write it off until you've actually spoken to her. She might just be needing some space, I don't really see anything "final" to be honest.
     
  6. HEADRAT

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    If you are on speaking terms with her sister then see if you can find out what happened, that might be a way in!

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  7. Spacky

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    tbh I was thinking the same, I have no respect for Spiritualists and the drivel they spout. They use and abuse the powers of coincidence plus ever since seeing the film Ghost they all look like Whoopi Goldberg (in my mind).
     
  8. daveyj27

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    The sister is hardly likely to be 100% honest with you on this matter though in all fairness.
     
  9. Davey_Pitch

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    I'm guessing from your first post you've already considered the possibility that she cheated on you when she went out with the girls? It's a horrible thing and I hope it's nothing like that, but it's something you need to consider. Perhaps when you see her tell her you know about it, and her reaction should tell you all you need to know.
     
  10. Gavin

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    I think in this matter her sister has been 100% honest with me.
     
  11. Gavin

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    That was my first inital thought, which is why when she first of all said it wasnt anything i had done i thought she had cheated.b But she says no
     
  12. WantoN

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    I wouldn't obsess about it. Tell her she owes it to you to talk this through with you, if she won't, she's a coward and not worth your time.

    Ant :cool:
     
  13. Gaijin

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    Seconded on this one, especially given the suspicious turnaround of events.
     
  14. Rich_L

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    Given the general logical inability of women, there was probably an article in Cosmo this week entitled 'Pretend to dump your boyfriend to KEEP YOUR relationship EXCITING!!!!'
     
  15. Gavin

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    Well im starting think now she could of waited as im the lowest point in my life................i cant walk and might lose my foot..............ive lost my job due to my injuries....I dont have immediate job prospects.........mum and dad are going away on holiday in 2 weeks and now have no one to come and see me or help with things as she has been

    Some might call me selfish i spose
     
  16. iCraig

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    Maybe shes dumped you because shes scared of having to look after you for the foreseeable future?

    Selfish yes, but the logic is there.

    Either its something like that or you arn't telling us the full story.
     
  17. Old Turkey

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    You need to see her face to face, in order to observe her demeanor and body language, to determin whether she is putting on a front or not.

    For example, for some inexplicable logically void reason she may be putting on a front, by that I mean breaking up with you while not really wanting to but doing it anyway.
     
  18. starscream

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    People that see spiritualists are wierd. You're better off without.

    That and that fact that even though she's in her 30's, she wont have a straight conversation with you and only talks on MSN/texts.
     
  19. Jonny69

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    Mate if you need a hand with anything I'm just round the corner from ya. Drop me a line on MSN.
     
  20. KaHn

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    I would put money on the fact she's either cheated on you or this has been coming for a while.

    KaHn