FirebarUK said:Sorry Richdog, someone had to say it and get that line of tact going. It sounds as though she just hasn't given it enough thought. Perhaps with her first boyfriend or whatever she just did it in a moment of passion then tried to justify it - its not a personal dig against her. I can imagine that as its what I tried to do! Perhaps her first boyfriend pressured her into it. I'm just saying that she shouldn't just give up, although I'm undoubtably talking to the wrong person.
It seems like you're making a rather fruitless argument. Although it's true she could have been pressured into sex, there is absolutely no evidence to support this, and it is just as plausible if not more so that she had sex because she wanted to. I believe this is the general reason .
Look at it this way, she is going out with you and you probably won't become a Christian by the sounds of it (although we don't know this!), where is your future together? And as said, how will you bring up children?
I think Richdog has already said that he cannot help who he loves, as can nobody else. And he mentioned that the religious differences have never been an obstacle in his relationship. It could be that both participants have enough respect for each other to set differences like this aside . The bringing up of children is an interesting question. I can only speak for myself, but if I were in that position I would try to best allow my children to have their own beliefs. It's impossible to not influence your children though, so I agree if there is one issue in a relationship between a very pious person and a more rational person (), this is it. I would for this reason be wary of a relationship with a heavily religious girl, in long-term prospects.
The bible doesn't specifically say don't marry a non-christian, it just says that if you do get married the non-christian should not hold the other down and stop them from growing. It involves a lot of careful thinking!
What do you mean by "stop them growing"?