Shall I risk it with this girl?

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and a bloke who'd slept with that many people wouldn't be?

You really shouldn't validate people with stupid opinions by quoting them and responding. Aedus clearly has little to no capability when it comes to comprehending relationships, just let him go his own way and hope he doesn't pass his ignorance on to the next generation.
 
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a lot of posters here are saying run for the hills, I think they have a sheltered and somewhat deluded view of women. Women like sex, and have lots of it.... Shock!

I dont think anyones disputing that @ Uni its sex, sex and more sex :D

I just think that a few more people are aware now of the medical kick-backs (STDs?) though and maybe thats why theres some caution floating about...

Keep it as fun. She won't want anything serious whereas i think you might do.

+1, in a nutshell...this is it!
 
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To extent on my point, the very last thing most people want to do at University is get into a relationship and "miss out on things".

Obviously this varies from person to person. :)

Make the most of University. There are hundreds (perhaps thousands!) of women who want to meet new people.
 
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and a bloke who'd slept with that many people wouldn't be?

Nice assumptions there.

This is what it boils down to when the shoe is on the other foot: A girl posts here and asks the glorious OcUK eggheads if she should get into a relationship with a guy which has slept with 25 girls and is only 19 too, 5 since he's been to uni. Do you honestly think, anyone, any single person here would advise that she should get with this guy and not be able to tell straight away that he was going to just use her?
 
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Keep her for fun and games, and some social company to chill :)

Keep any emotions, and relationships at arms length. If anything should develop, it will come naturally and in time.

Just enjoy the time now as fun and friendship. No one knows how the future will unfold. Think of this as try before you buy period, or a ****-buddy.
 
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Nice assumptions there.

This is what it boils down to when the shoe is on the other foot: A girl posts here and asks the glorious OcUK eggheads if she should get into a relationship with a guy which has slept with 25 girls and is only 19 too, 5 since he's been to uni. Do you honestly think, anyone, any single person here would advise that she should get with this guy and not be able to tell straight away that he was going to just use her?

...Nice assumptions there..:p
 
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You really shouldn't validate people with stupid opinions by quoting them and responding. Aedus clearly has little to no capability when it comes to comprehending relationships, just let him go his own way and hope he doesn't pass his ignorance on to the next generation.

"Stupid opinions", Lol sure brah.

I've been there, I can speak from experience, have you? I've also had it happen to my best mate, both ended exactly the same way. Why would I advise anyone to do the same when it's clear exactly what's going to happen?

Plain and simple: Girl is going to **** it up at uni and dump you when she finds someone better.
 
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Plain and simple: Girl is going to **** it up at uni and dump you when she finds someone better.

So how long have you known the girl in the OP?

Because what you're saying is basically 100% fact it would seem.

Also you're talking like you're the only one who has had a student life, involving girls.

I know women who "enjoyed life" and ended up with someone long term.

Long term doesnt mean forever btw. But it also doesnt mean they dumped their partner as soon as "someone better came along"

1 girl spent the whole first year having sex with different guys, including myself. And the following 3 years she was in a relationship.

they split up when she left university as they lived too far apart. But still. It was definitely a relationship worth its time. they were brilliant together
 
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25 different people at 19 is a lot.

It really isn't a lot at all if she hasn't been in a long term relationship. I bet loads of girls have similar numbers.

Might as well give it a go OP. You can only get hurt if you're enjoying yourself. Don't avoid enjoying yourself due to fear of being hurt.

As an aside how old are you OP?
 
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If she stopped banging you while she was seeing someone else, that's a good sign.

This

She was sleeping with the OP then stopped due to a 1.5 month thing with this 'army lad' - indicator is that she does become monogamous when she considers herself to be in a relationship despite being overly willing to put out for many guys when not.
 
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So how long have you known the girl in the OP?

Because what you're saying is basically 100 fact it would seem.

Also you're talking like you're the only one who has had a student life, involving girls.

I know women who "enjoyed life" and ended up with someone long term.

Long term doesnt mean forever btw. But it also doesnt mean they dumped their partner as soon as "someone better came along"


You can gauge pretty well how she will be even by what the OP said.
started sleeping with this girl and ive been regularly sleeping with her apart from a 1 and a half month break where she was seeing some army lad..
1st alarm bell. Dumped OP for someone better, until the army dude probably went off again to the army and took him back because there was nothing else. That should be reason alone to not trust her.

basically she has slept with 5 guys since september including me and overall slept with 25 people.. shes 19.. Yea I know thats **** loads but she was saying tonight that she wants to be with me, and she wont hurt me..
2nd alarm bell. 5 Guys since she's been to uni including Army lad, and "I won't hurt you" on top? Yuh huh.

Obv thats not the whole story, shes had issues.
3rd alarm bell. Though you can't gauge these types of "issues" she had, the fact OP brings them up must make them valid to a point where they can cause problems. They're most likely going to be silly little issues, like self confidence or being cheated on etc. Not something like someone else said "Being fiddled" :rolleyes:


We don't know her, so you have to go by what people have told you, and what OP said is definitely not something I would class as good girlfriend material, bit of fun on the side, but take it seriously and more likely than not you will have your heart ripped out. Like I said, I've been there with a girl, exactly the same, was ignorant and I had it happen to me, thus will not advise anyone who's in a somewhat similar position to "go for it" no matter how ignorant I may sound right now.
 
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She wasnt seeing the OP, She was having sex with him.

So while the army guy was with her, she stopped sleeping around. A good thing yes?

The split up, Reason really doesnt matter does it.

So she's now single again and free to live the lifestyle she chooses.

You seem to have this view of women as though they're supposed to wear chastity belts and only unlock it for their 1 true love or something. And when single they should never remove said chastity belt.

She's in uni... Over 7 months she's slept with 5 people.

That's 28 weeks, And in student life no doubt she's been hitting the union and bars every weekend! 5 people in 28 weekends.

how slutty!
 
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You seem to have this view of women as though they're supposed to wear chastity belts and only unlock it for their 1 true love or something. And when single they should never remove said chastity belt.

Hardly, women can do whatever they want. That isn't the point of the OP, the OP is asking for advice of if he should or shouldn't get with said girl after giving us all of those facts. A girl can shag 500 blokes in uni if she wants it's none of my business. But if someone asks me "Should I get with her, she's been with x amount of people, she dumped me for a month to shag some army dude and she has some personal issues, but she said she would never hurt me" the answer would still be no. No, no and more no.

The army lad is more of an issue than shagging 5 guys in 7 months. The fact is OP got dropped for this guy, and when things went breasts up (For whatever reason) she came crawling back to him.
 
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Keep it as fun. She won't want anything serious whereas i think you might do.

If thats the case then why is she saying that she wants to be with him, and she wont hurt him? Either she's serious or she's lying and just wants her hole filled untill the next army lad comes along ,maybe a fire fighter this time or club bouncer.:p

She told you how many people she slept with,she's either telling the truth which is a good thing and is a sign that she's trust worthy and ready to move on from the flings she's been having regular or she's setting you up for a big fail. Maybe even testing how much of a door matt you are.

But im a cynical todger who thinks all women are the spawn of satan and the closest i had to a real relationship was some emotionaly manipulative b**ch who used me for money(when i had it)making up crap to make me feel sorry for her and telling me not to tell her familiy im giving her money to help her out(that should have been the first warning because her family were great people with a lot of morals and wouldnt have stood for what she did to me) then at the end of it all after i explained how much i loved her one day a bit more passionately than usual and that i could see myself being with her forever she said that she was going back with her non existant ex who was going to kill himself if she didnt go back with him when in actual fact she found some other older dude with a lot more cash in the USA lol:rolleyes:.

I ended up finding out more lies she told me later on after i stopped talking to her,she'd been planning to leave me the whole time and was making arrangements to go to the USA and all during this time she was telling me lies about her loving me and fabricating elaborate stories about needing cash lol. its my own fault for being so gullable but its totaly wrecked my mind and i dont even bother anymore,my gf is porn site now :D i should have listened to her m8 who told me one night when she wasnt around that i shouldnt trust her,needless to say she isnt her m8 anymore:p
 
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Nice assumptions there.

This is what it boils down to when the shoe is on the other foot: A girl posts here and asks the glorious OcUK eggheads if she should get into a relationship with a guy which has slept with 25 girls and is only 19 too, 5 since he's been to uni. Do you honestly think, anyone, any single person here would advise that she should get with this guy and not be able to tell straight away that he was going to just use her?

I'd say the number of people they'd slept with is irrelevant

"Stupid opinions", Lol sure brah.

I've been there, I can speak from experience, have you? I've also had it happen to my best mate, both ended exactly the same way. Why would I advise anyone to do the same when it's clear exactly what's going to happen?

Plain and simple: Girl is going to **** it up at uni and dump you when she finds someone better.

So basically you're coming from the viewpoint that because a woman did that to you, all women are the same?
People sleep with people, the number of people they've slept with is their issue and theirs alone, not for others to judge. It doesn't make them any more or less of a person.

Frankly your opinion of women is pretty outdated. As already mentioned, shock horror women like having sex too!
 
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I've been there, I can speak from experience, have you? I've also had it happen to my best mate, both ended exactly the same way. Why would I advise anyone to do the same when it's clear exactly what's going to happen?

No, of course I haven't - I rarely leave the house and I'm asexual :rolleyes:.

You can play the experience card if you like, but unless you've seen enough to know that there's no guarantee it'll go one way or the other it's just so much hot air. Sure, your enormous pool of two real-life examples (neither of which leaves you biased against the girl's part, of course) may indicate that girls who sleep with a lot of guys are just slags who can't keep their knickers on, but unless you drop your reflexive judgement and opinionated righeousness, you're unlikely to recognise when you meet a girl who happens to enjoy sex and doesn't let the ill-informed opinion of people like you influence her decisions.
 
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The army lad is more of an issue than shagging 5 guys in 7 months. The fact is OP got dropped for this guy, and when things went breasts up (For whatever reason) she came crawling back to him.

You seem to be ignoring the fact that it was just sex... Before it was just sex. Now its sex, with the possibility of more.

The OP never got dumped. because they've never been together.

All that happened was, The OP was getting no strings sex. The girl in question got a boyfriend, as so the no strings sex was no longer available.

He didnt get dumped.

As said. If anything it shows that when the girl is in a relationship, she doesnt sleep around
 
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No, of course I haven't - I rarely leave the house and I'm asexual :rolleyes:.

You can play the experience card if you like, but unless you've seen enough to know that there's no guarantee it'll go one way or the other it's just so much hot air. Sure, your enormous pool of two real-life examples (neither of which leaves you biased against the girl's part, of course) may indicate that girls who sleep with a lot of guys are just slags who can't keep their knickers on, but unless you drop your reflexive judgement and opinionated righeousness, you're unlikely to recognise when you meet a girl who happens to enjoy sex and doesn't let the ill-informed opinion of people like you influence her decisions.

Well said :) (put it much better than I could have)
 
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