So Its happenened - wife left me.

fatiain · 2 Feb 2006 at 09:18

Don't forget, we have a huuuuge collective shoulder here mate. Best of British today.

VeNT · 2 Feb 2006 at 09:19

don't let her stop seeing your kids dude,
fight for them

MeatLoaf · 2 Feb 2006 at 15:51

fatiain said:
Don't forget, we have a huuuuge collective shoulder here mate. Best of British today.

Thanks..

She wont stop me seeing the kids i dint think. She still wants me to attend the antenatal scan with her and be at the birth so maybe there is still hope.

My worry is that, who is going to want to start going out with a guy whose got 2 kids already and another on the way.

Plus, how would a future girlfriend feel about me being at the birth - or her boyfriend if she has one.

I think if im honest i cant be 100% certain that getting back together is the right thing to do anymore.

Im just a bit confused now

Von Smallhausen · 2 Feb 2006 at 16:05

Thats understandable Meatloaf.

I have been through a painful split so I know what it's like. I have said before that I split from my ex and found my father dead within the space of 7 days and I was at the lowest ebb of my life just about.

My point is that I got through it and I am certainly not superhuman so if I can that means you can too. I hope it works out for you both and if it doesn't, it is not the end of the world believe me.

I am on MSN and e-mail if you want to chat .... anytime.

wozzizname · 2 Feb 2006 at 16:37

Yes, because she's obviously not in love with you any more. I can see it, and just about everyone else here can see it. It's just a shame for you that you can't, and there's no point starting these threads if you're going to seek sympathy and advice and then just going to shoot yourself in the foot repeatedly. She is giving off every sign of being through with you, she's cheated, you don't make love any more, she finds reason to fall out with you over the most ridiculous things and with the most feeble excuses.

I'll lay it down to you as I see it. You annoy her, you irritate her because she doesn't feel the love for you any more and so all of your little niggly bad points that lovers accept are no longer acceptable. She knows that you can wrap you round her little finger if she needs a fall-back and she holds all of the emotional cards.

You deserve better yet I can't see you ever getting it if you treat yourself like this.

Richdog speaks the truth here, I spent years being treated like a mug 'trying to make it work' before I came to my senses (partly thanks to counselling), and divorced my wife. It takes two to make a marriage work, you can't make up for her lack of feelings towards you and things will get better for you given a bit of time.
Best of luck to you, there's several people here who have been through similar situations and are now doing OK, so don't despair !

MeatLoaf · 2 Feb 2006 at 17:49

Im not, im taking a lot of comfort from what you guys are saying so i thank you all for that.

MeatLoaf · 3 Feb 2006 at 13:59

Well she has been to collect her stuff. She didnt really give a reason.

I packed it up for her and she loaded it in the car. I was really strong and i didnt cry but it still hurts like hell.

And at least i saw my daughter emma.

Just the money side of things to sort out now.

If anyones near port vale club tonight feel free to dropin, in in the karaoke final tonight with £500 up for grabs.

Ukadder · 3 Feb 2006 at 14:25

Good luck for the final! Glad to see you were able to be strong and reasonable for helping her move her belongings. I'm sure this is a very hard time for you and probibly will be for along time to come but your doing the right things, hope the next few weeks your able to cope. Were always here to rant at or moan at

W00dy · 3 Feb 2006 at 14:26

Well she has been to collect her stuff. She didnt really give a reason.

I packed it up for her and she loaded it in the car. I was really strong and i didnt cry but it still hurts like hell.

Good stuff mate - hold your head high

I am going through a similar thing atm - my Wife and I separated just before Xmas - life is tough but I promise every day does get easier.

Good luck for tonight

xander_uk2 · 3 Feb 2006 at 14:55

Good luck with the Karaoke mate, really hope you win

wordy · 3 Feb 2006 at 15:02

Good luck tonight with the singin' m8

carpmaster · 3 Feb 2006 at 15:12

Seriously good luck with the karaoke tonight. You are lucky you have at least one interest that gets you out and about, and enables you to meet people. My ex walked out on me a few years back now, and threatened to take our 1 year old with her.

As it happens we managed to sort things out amicably and now we have little Jessica half the week each. It still hurts like hell, and you won't ever forget but you have to move on and concentrate on what you want to do.

What about joining a band and playing gigs. I seriously wish I could sing as I would be out rocking some live gigs.

Good luck whatever happens dude.

Shifter_Hull · 3 Feb 2006 at 18:13

Really Sorry to hear about your wife leaving you but remember the children are going to be missing you and what ever the situation the answer is not in the bottom of a bottle
hope you get to see your kids soon

MeatLoaf · 3 Feb 2006 at 19:14

Dont worry, i wont turn to drink and go silly, shes not worth it.

Im sure theres light at the end of the tunnel, in fact, some girl has already asked for my number.

For the 1st time in 5 or 6 years i feel good about myself. I will let you know later what happens in the compo.

SexyGreyFox · 3 Feb 2006 at 19:18

It says a £1000 in The Sentinel
Good luck.

DanMc07 · 3 Feb 2006 at 19:21

Just read this whole thread, its nice to see that you are starting to feel a bit better now and feeling good. Hope you do well tonight m8, keep strong

MeatLoaf · 3 Feb 2006 at 19:21

dmpoole said:
It says a £1000 in The Sentinel
Good luck.

It is, but its spilt between the winners.

1st prize = £500
2nd Prize = £300
3rd Prize = £200

Plus all the finallists get a guaranteed £25 so i cant lose really

MeatLoaf · 4 Feb 2006 at 00:32

I didnt win! There was 4 professional singer in it! Certainly not fair but never mind at least i got £25

iCraig · 4 Feb 2006 at 00:35

MeatLoaf said:
I didnt win! There was 4 professional singer in it! Certainly not fair but never mind at least i got £25

£25 more than I got tonight.

Glad you've attracted some female interest already, but go steady.

Oh and "accidentally" send a nice text meant for your new lady friend to the wife, and then casually apologise for the mistake.

Richdog · 4 Feb 2006 at 08:57

Good luck Meatloaf, and heed others advice, take it VERY slow with any new women, don't go feet first into anything as it's far too soon and it'll take you a good while to recover from this episode!