to be honest with you, after reading all of these articles in depth, and talking to jasper, he has changed my opinion (on my original post)
i was viewing this from a purely risk taking point of view
if a drug addict injected themselves with a dirty needle - and contracts HIV, there is no blame to apportion, as the risk was their own
unprotected sex - always the risk of STI's, STD's and it should be both partners responsibility to look after themselves
if i cross the road, i am taking a risk that i may get hit by a car
if a car speeds up and intentionally hits me, he is guilty of murder
because he INTENDED to hit me
and that is what she has done
he took the risk *but* she intentionally put him in danger
and in a 2 year relationship, not just a 1 night stand?
that's awful.
i guess my more informed opinion is a bit more realistic